Aedrys
If justice doesn't get you, karma will.
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Aedrys I so often agree with you, but the bolded part... eh.. she has made poor choices in a lot of parts of her life, but she also made the choice to raise Kyron and baby K as a SAHM, which led to no outside job, which led to less money than Kaine. Without getting into the discussion about SAHM-hood, I just want to interject that she was doing something valuable for the family and saving the cost of daycare (which can sometimes equal a working salary) besides. I mean an innocent Terri that is (clearly if she's guilty I can hardly paint her as a valuable family asset, but then the alimony discussion will be moot anyway...). It's different (IMO) than being willfully unemployed without contributing ANYthing to the family...
I wasn't talking about being a SAHM in particular. After I wrote that, I knew someone was going to point that out. I should have changed it. Choosing to be a SAHM is not a bad choice or low ambition in life. What I am saying is that before that, she didn't hold any job for long, put her career in jeapardy by getting a DUI, and according to Kaine, was spending money like water. And now her own lawyer says she's penniless. So no checking or savings account in her name? No kind of monetary assets except that she was married to Kaine? And where are the ones we have heard about, like the lawsuit settlements she got?
I know some SAHM's myself. I wish I could afford to be one when the time comes, but I know that won't happen. Anyway, one in particular saves every penny and stretches every dollar. She knows her husband works very hard for that money and respects him for it by not needlessly spending it on junk. I just don't feel sorry for someone who throws away their husband's hard earned money. SAHM or not, she has seemingly done nothing to save any money for herself, or to provide for her kids, or have any plan in place other than sponging off of Kaine and living off of his money in some fashion or form. Honestly, I don't think she became a SAHM out of the goodness of her heart and her love for children. I have a lot of respect for women who are SAHM's for those reasons. I think she became a SAHM so she wouldn't have to work and could spend someone else's money, mostly on herself. All IMO.
ETA: And in today's economy, if one chooses to be a SAHM, they also have to think about what would happen if the wage earner dies or loses their job. It's simply horrific to be a SAHM in this day and time and think that the wage earner's money is going to last forever and never plan financially for any setback or tragedy.