gracielee
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I want to thank Star12 for her moving statement on lastnights thread. So many people think of domestic violence as black eyes/broken bones. They don't understand that most physical injuries heal. A few can cause life-long ailments, but by far most HEAL. It is the emotional scarring that remains. Those things which can't be seen by the naked eye. My first 18 years were comprised of daily abuse of all types. And I recall, in the depths of my therapy process, crying to my therapist, 'if only you could somehow turn me inside out, you'd turn away in horror at the scarring you'd find.' "My insides look like the worst burn victim in the world, but because no one can see them, to most they don't exisit." In their efforts to hide stuff, many people lose any and all family and friends from that time period, because if they *accept* what you are saying, then they have to ADMIT, they didn't help, didn't acknowledge your need as it was going on, etc. If anyone here knew me in real life, they would never in a million years EVER think I had a care in the world. Never think my life was anything but blessed. Much like Nancy, life of the party, always up for a laugh, practical joker, etc. Often times it's us, in our efforts to hide what's inside, that work harder at giving the appearance 'hey everything is great!' Thank goodness Nancy had friends and family who saw, who knew, even before she herself KNEW, the danger she was living in. It's just so tragic they couldn't save her. I know this is a victim friendly site, but there are lurkers who read too. Remember this, please, the scars inside are life-long. Scarred little children grow up into adults, who live with their scars daily. If you know someone in your life, see something outside in the world, 'reach out to help', and quit slamming Nancy's friends for their attempts to *help* her and her children. Would the collective *you* have felt more sympathy towards nancy had she lived in a trailer park and subsisted on $30.00 a week? Money and surroundings are relative, fear, hurt and pain aren't.