His middle school friend said they BOTH felt frustrated with the dating scene, with the ghosting phenomenon, not with women in general, big difference. Who would not be?
The question is how far did those frustrations go and what language was used? Was anything Bryan said violent or particularly worrying?
How many teenage boys (and grown men, for that matter) have this experience? Don’t women also have this experience?
We've all complained with our friends. Wish I had a dollar for all the "Ugh I hate men" conversations I've had over the years. I have a guy who struggles with matching on dating apps and experiencing romantic relationships. He complains about it all the time, but NEVER shows ill will, aggression or derogatory views towards women.
Being frustrated with dating is different to hating women and wanting to inflict pain and punish them. I haven't seen anything so far that confirms that he was a women hating incels the media so desperately portrays.
Many of the stories that attack BK's character are vague and lack context, a lot are not even first accounts. They hone in on words like frustrated and aggressive without giving examples of what actually was said or done. Since his arrest, the media has been clearly dishonest when reporting about BK, twisting words to fit to their narrative and give the articles sensationalist headlines to gain clicks.
I dunno. I have taught and done research among middle schoolers. LOTS of children are not interested in "dating." In middle school, nor in high school.
A lot of people would barely notice "ghosting". Only an eager dater would notice, IMO.
I teach young adults (18-27) and they seem NOT frustrated by the current "dating" scene. It's complex. Lots of books being written and some already in publication.
Not everyone has complained to their friends. I do think more women are criticising men than in earlier times - but neither I nor my daughters nor my students have had lots of "I hate men" conversations (I see that on reddit - but it's college women, and I do believe they are in a special circumstance - so perhaps pertinent to this case).
I agree that being frustrated with dating is one thing. But NORMAL people do not generalize to "I hate all men" or "I hate all women." IMO.
Of course, here in my world (lots and lots of students - L.A. area, some have dating apps, a lot do NOT), my anecdotal research (40 years of it), I am more interested in the actual case facts.
I'm too exhausted to go back over the "
altercations" and the words of the women in his class - did you listen/watch about the woman who had to practically lock her bathroom door to be rid of him? Did you see that he was being ejected from his grad program (HUGE deal, all kinds of protections for him - and yet HR decided he had to go).
Let me ask you this. Do you think the murderer (whoever it is) LIKED women??
Incel? I have argued that he's something else. I haven't seen anyone here on WS mention incel-dom for ages.
So you think WSU fired him for no reason?
That's the bottom line. The complaining professor knew what was up. Look up that prof and his background. Read the memo from HR. SOMETHING involving aberrant behavior resulted in BK being EJECTED from being a TA (and therefore, being a grad student, really). It's EXCEEDINGLY rare for that to happen and every single thing has to be documented by multiple people.
I myself have no interest in MSM portrayals of Incels, I think BK falls into a different category (but still ideologically motivated).
There's a database on mass murder. Huge database. After looking at the findings there, it's difficult to come up with any theory that doesn't mention relationships between the sexes (or similar).
I think the Proud Boy ideology is closer to BK's- I am just guessing. I agree that "Stories" about BK in MSM might be misleading. But that's not at all what I'm paying attention to. And it's a wild guess - but I think I have some facts on my side.
If he did commit these murders (which I believe he did),
ought we not be "attacking" his "character"?
Can you describe the character of someone who DID commit this crime (SOMEONE did it!) Was it a woman? Do you think that's a possibility? Do you think it was an escapee from a mental hospital? I mean, surely, we have to posit hypotheses about who in fact COULD do this mass murder. It's not just anyone.
If it's not BK who is it?Mass Killing Database
Here's the database:
James Alan Fox, Lipman Family Professor of Criminology, Law, and Public Policy at Northeastern University, teamed up with USA TODAY and the Associated Press to launch the Mass Killings database – a public facing website that uses interactive graphics and visuals to break down data on incidences...
cssh.northeastern.edu
Where does he fit in?
And if he doesn't fit in, what are your views on who might actually kill four vibrant young people? (three of them women - is that insignificant? I think it's very significant).
IMO, there is no such thing as "random killing." There is always a build-up, a reason, even if it's only reasonable to the perpetrator.
But, I could be persuaded. Do you think this quadruple homicide was random?
(No disrespect intended - you're asking questions and I'm giving my own POV).
Not random. Psychologically motivated ( a human brain concocted these terrible murders and that brain is, in my view, not normal - I don't know much about "character" but I do think the personality and character arise in the brain.
This is a young man being fired for...malfeasance...at a job that most grad students can perform without issues (even the murderers and sociopaths that I've studied). If he has some kind of character disorder, I'm somewhat sympathetic. If he has a neurological disorder, even moreso. But that doesn't change his legal situation and those of us who want to write and speak about that should continue to do so.
IOW, I would expect this mass murderer to be atypical. Not normal. To have a bad "character." Very interested in what others would expect or posit.
IMO.