Simp
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I think it is time to tell her, especially with the Holidays- no child wants to feel forgotten or second place in her Mommy's eyes. I know what Payton will go through as I was slightly older than her when I wemt through hearing the news myself- I will never forget the day I found out my daddy was gone.. I remember my grandma calling me into the living room and saying, "pie, we have to talk" (Pie is their name for me, or Pie Dear, coming from sweetie pie) and telling me that my daddy had hurt himself and that he was in heaven with the angels but that anytime I wanted to I could talk to him and he would hear me bc he was with God. I remember just blanking out and spinning a large globe for a while, the reality took a long time to set in. I do not remember his Mass or burial, or anything from the months following but my mom has told me I would go through periods where I would just scream at the top of my lungs continually. Continually. I was around Payton's age (about 4) and received counseling. I also developed an imaginary friend as a coping mechanism. Imaginary friends are now considered a healthy way to for children to deal w loneliness or trauma. I pray that Payton is told in a loving way soon that Mommy probably won't be coming back (she does not need to know ANY details) but that she can talk to Mommy anytime she wants and she will hear her. I pray that there will be closure for Brittney and poor, poor Payton. My family is very functional other than my birth father and I now have a great stepfather I call Dad who stepped up to the plate. I pray that if Brittmey doesn't come back, for any reason, a lady like my Dad will do the same. Because she will REALLY need positive female role models.
Thank you for sharing and I am deeply sorry for the loss of your dad.