I read this earlier but I’m still a bit confused.
One of my dearest friends, whom I’ve known for 48 years, is black and helped me decades ago to understand the cultural significance of black women and their relationships with their hair.
This friend, when we were teenagers, had her hair straightened with a hot comb. She would never go in a pool or beach because it would make her hair behave in a manner she didn’t want.
In the 1970s, when we met, a lot of black people here in NYC chose to wear their hair naturally, which is when Afros were popular. As the years went by, other black friends would buy hair from women in India that was considered “good hair” and would be used for weaves.
Eventually some black friends started to buy those very expensive wigs, which is an ordeal to remove, from what I understand.
We can see in Carlee’s pictures from before this stunt that she had several wigs of different colors and styles. IMO this was central to the image she wished to craft, along with the gowns and bathing suit pictures.
I have now read several news stories like this, where the female black community doubted her story immediately because the wig was left behind. It’s expensive, it’s her “crowning glory,” etc.
I know the kidnapping and the toddler and all the rest were lies.
What I’m missing is why her wig being left behind was a signal to her community that she was lying, and not instead a signal that she was believably kidnapped because she would never leave her hair behind?
Is it because it would take too long to remove during a hasty kidnap? Is it because she was trying to hide her now conspicuous identity? After all, her mother published photos of her without a wig so that people could be on the lookout for how she’d look while “missing.”
Is it because if someone were truly kidnapped by a person lying in wait by a highway, they would have just grabbed her immediately without taking time to undo her wig?
This is all because in the immediacy of when this story broke, her wig being ripped off is one of the things that made me think she’d been assaulted. Although the toddler on the highway struck me as inane right away.
Someone help me out. What am
I not grasping? I would call my friend and ask her point-blank, but she is in Georgia where her son is getting married soon.
TIA