Story on ACA now
Since catching up last night and reading itsthevibe and Minni as well as responses from most of you I have hardly been able to sleep.
The openness with which you relayed your personal stories really hit home hard for me, initially. After thinking about it or most of the night I truly believe that one of the best things to come out of this forum is that some of the women on here have been able to say things that I have felt and known for a long time about myself but have never really confronted. I too lived with someone who was an absolute narcissist. Believe it or not I actually slept on a floor for 6 months because he believed that This was a good thing!! LOL I am no idiot had a high powered job but was totally sucked in. Once I was, well and truly, he started behaving differently, getting angry, disappearing, being online trawling the sites for so-called friends, etc etc (most of you will know the story).
I moved back to my 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom beachfront apartment that had stood empty for months and fell into a very deep depression out of which I have only recently emerged. I resigned my job, took early retirement,got two dogs, and starting running a small hostel for international students.
I really believe that out of all the bad stuff that has surfaced I relation to Allison's murder there are also some good things.i went for a walk with the dogs this morning and for the very first time in a long time I felt good about myself, and could almost laugh about how stupid I had been. This would not have happened withoutme being on this site and reading all the different personal stories of many of you. I cried last night with relief knowing I am not the only one, but thank god I survived but sadly Allison didn't.
I hope that there is a way in which we can give our daughters, nieces, friends the confidence in themselves and the knowledge to know that being with someone like that is not ok but hat you can talk about it with others who have been in similar situations or who understand.
Sorry Mods I know this is off topic but i really needed to share.
Thank you all again.
hurry paradox
I agree with this. In my experience of growing up in a DV household, there are bruises, cracked teeth, and stitches required when DV happens; and people need to go to the doctor. You can't hide it. Everybody knows about it.
The police turned up all the time and all the neighbours knew everything that happened. And also in my experience my mother gave as bad as she got. My father got arrested all the time, but as a young kid I knew that sometimes my mother should have been the one to be arrested. Oddly enough their marriage lasted. They were both in their 80s when they passed away, and were still together, and still arguing and fighting into their 80s. Not saying this is good (in fact it was totally *advertiser censored***; just saying I don't think you can hide DV, unless it's DV that is more of a psychologically thing; i.e. putting your partner down all the time to make yourself feel better.
Again, here you have not responded to any of my questions except one.
How have I slammed or attacked you? Please link to or quote a post where this is so? You have on several occasions directly replied to and challenged my opinons, and in at least one instance insulted my intelligence. Another poster even pointed out how condecending you were being and you agreed that you were.
I have only ever challenged the content of your posts that were aimed at me specifically. I beleive I have done so in a fair and objective manner. If you can't hack the responses to your posts I suggest you engage with someone else.
Wow current affair well that says it all IMO .
Another poster stated "True sociopaths are rare".
Umm, no, they are not... Believe me.
A Current Affair on 9 just had a whole segment about this case. Basically same info as reported on CM yesterday, with a recount of the whole thing until now and also photos of TM. Confirmed that police is looking into the financial affairs of the family and that police have a suspect, but still wish for people to contact CrimeStoppers with any info which may assist.
Sorry Off Topic now self .. I think the point is not to educate victims of DV, but to change the behaviour of perpetrators and of course prevention.
IMO
Damn I love the people on here. Such a myriad of emotions, minds and personalities. As other people have stated, this forum has engulfed my life. Overtaken my interests and has captivated me more than any favourite DVD or tv series! I promise I do have a life! It's just on hold at the moment, that is until these discussions are at an end. Sorry dexter, fringe and walking dead, I will have to get back to you!
I'm not taking anyone's side here...just passing this post in...
I think mountainhigh's reply to your original multiple question post was all caught up in the quote box.
Websleuths Crime Sleuthing Community - View Single Post - Australia - Allison Baden-Clay, 43, Brisbane QLD, 19 April 2012 - #11
Why would the kids have to have been at a sleepover even if Allison went to the hairdresser and had an early start? Surely GBC could have handled it or was he never around to do that. Just now has struck me as odd! It was a weekday. I think I fell into he trap thinking sure at haiirdresser, early start for mum; ok for kids to be somewhere else. But really when the father is here why would you??
Wow current affair well that says it all IMO .