laserdisc10
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Hi again Ixnaye. Thread's moving so fast had to scroll back to Page 15 to find it
The 9 months element is certainly possible. In fact we could conjecture that a wife might feel (aged 43 and with 3 growing girls, the youngest being say, 5 years old) that her child-bearing days were behind her. Time now to get finances in order. Put something away for the girls' futures. Time to get a home of their own and for her spouse to match his ambitions to his abilities and get stuck into some work and quit messing around
The husband's father, on the other hand, might feel she had not completed her task in producing an heir to the deed-poll family-name? May have chided his weakling son about it. Might even have suggested the son find himself a new brood-mare - who knows?
So, if a filly happened to discover herself pregnant, the husband might have regarded the situation as providing him a phoenix from the ashes opportunity - new life, new wife, new lease on life and possibly a little male BC to keep the old bwanana happy? As we know, some men choose to blame their wives and families for their own failures. Their ego persuades them that a new woman (one who hasn't heard their jokes, suffered their moods, seen through their BS) will render them decades younger. Grass is greener, etc. Such men are usually fantasists by nature and a new partner allows them to create an entirely new set of fantasies
So I can see the above being possible, sure
It's the wife's reaction I'm more dubious about. The wife in question is intelligent. Disciplined. Experienced. Psychologist. Mother of three. And 43 years old. A realist, for how could she be anything else, considering her work and life experiences?
It's said her spouse had pretty much shown his colours, fidelity-wise. So she'd suffered the big hurt, Time One. And if the rumours have any basis in fact, she'd probably suffered Time Two, Time Three and who knows how many other disillusioning experiences
Experiences like that (if they don't break you) make you stronger on the way out. At 43, she'd have been focused on her children and their futures, as well as her own future. She would have weighed the options, i.e., better to stay in the marriage a while longer until the girls were older (?) or quit now before finances destroyed all their futures and concentrate on establishing a new career and life with the girls (?)
News of an impending addition to the family via a casual fling would have been the clincher, no doubt. But how would a disciplined, 43 mother of three with a psychology degree react? Would she accept an impending step-sibling for her children as a fait accompli? Would she welcome the opportunity to leave a charade of a marriage as the 'one in the right'? Would she state quietly and without rancour that she and the girls would be leaving asap and good luck to you and your new girl, boyo? Would she methodically go about organising a new place for herself and her children? Or would she blow her top and participate in a blazing row with the potential to end her life? For surely after more than a decade's experience with the man in question and particularly as a psychologist with a lot of people-experience, she'd know (especially if there'd been DV in the past) when to push and when to walk away without further escalating a potentially dangerous situation?
It's not the 18th century. Divorce raises no eyebrows these days. And as the wronged ex-wife of a big-noting blow-hard, her standing within the community would probably rise if she divorced him. Don't think there are many who do not suspect she married beneath her. I think the marriage to him could have occasioned her humiliation, in fact
So, although I may be far wrong and remembering we're just speculating on unsubstantiated rumours here, I tend to the belief that the idiot husband chose to eliminate his wife for his own convenience and financial benefit and that he was under various pressures to boot. He probably thought the new one with-child (if in fact such a person exists)would be 'delighted' to play step-mother to 3 in addition to coping with a new baby, new weird in-laws and with the biggest child of all being the one she stupidly allowed to impregnate her
(edit: adding MOO)
