By Bratlings: "Ok, the definition of derogatory means to characterize something in a lowly way. If she had been referring to a mentally disabled person it would have been derogatory. The definition of *advertiser censored* is slow or limited in intellectual ability. While she did use the word out of context because she was not referring to the correct definition which points to a mentally disabled person she certainly did not insult anyone who fits those definitions. She was referring to a nonexistent fact or belief as being retarded. Used as an adjective. That was in no way a reference to anyone who is disabled and I tend to agree that while it is politically incorrect it is your choice whether to take it personally and own it as offensive."
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:nerves: Yes, Bratlings, there is a dictionary definition of "retarded." However, I've yet to hear the word used with its "dictionary" intent in mind (and I'm doubting that Tammi was packing a dictionary when she made this low-life remark). I've only heard "retarded" or it's kin "*advertiser censored*" used in a thoughtless, cruel manner by people who have not enough smarts or humility to be grateful for the brains they've been given.
My brother (53) was born severely mentally RETARDED (no eyes, either), so on his behalf and for all of those who were not blessed with the mental capacity to defend themselves against the heartless comments of the politically correct elite, I say that Tammi's comment WAS offensive, and that it reveals the ugliness of her character, and I applaud mamaeb for taking Tammi to task.
(BTW, I am an English teacher, so let's not getting into dueling adjectives.)
jmo