Thanks for the wedding info, I remember everything we had to do in advance when our daughter married in the DR, but I could see these two nitwits being in fantasy land and stating they planned to get married.
I don't think it came up in the lobby either, we've heard snippets of the convo they had there and surely such provocative words would have been repeated and that may have crossed over the boundaries of propriety even for SWM and HM to have a talk about it in such a public area. I would agree that she would have been shocked but I think it did come out and that accounts for her restlessness that early morning resulting in being seen at 3:45am. I don't though agree she would have emailed her siblings...why do I think that? Because her brother did not mention any emails they had gotten from her during the vacay (unless I missed that) and if they had it would have only been natural for him to bring them up when he made his statement to the press, if for no other reason to say "I/We heard last heard from her and she said nothing or things were awful". Nor did he know whether or not Tommy was expected by her but he was leaning toward her not knowing. His statement also had just a tinge of disdain in it, in my opinion, when discussing SWM's efforts to help HM, which could be expected I suppose. Not all siblings are close friends and are on the kind of footing that may have compelled her to email them and say "Guess what, TS showed up a day before we leave with no money and HM is pregnant". Not the kind of news you rush to tell family and heck, even friends unless you are very, very close. Besides what could she do then in Bali...just deal with it when they returned. Conversely her very good friend that delivered her eulogy noted that he had gone back and listened to her phone messages and read her email from Bali where she indicated she was worried and about HM being gone for 4 hours, that is relating the last contacts he had, which is very normal with a shocking, sudden death. There was a lot going on in a short span of time (8 hrs) and with HM's "attitude" as we saw from her instagram post coupled with her taking her leave when ever she felt like it, I question just how relaxing and fun the vacay had really been up to that point. SWM was probably already tired and stressed out by HM. I do think you may be onto something with the idea that this may have been the straw that broke the camel's back, it will be interesting if we ever learn the truth.