Posted here too
Sure is odd a grandma would notice a penis. I mean my grandmas noticed chubby cheeks, color of eyes, etc. Definitely never made comments on nether regions.
Nice, linking the Bardach article. It's good to revisit sources from time to time.
If BR really was an infant penile prodigy, I think it would be odd not to notice : ) What strikes me as "off" is Nedra's discussing it openly. Commenting in private to her husband or to Patsy is within reason, but discussing it in front of employees is beyond inappropriate. Stobie also says Nedra openly discussed oral sex. I get the sense from Stobie's description that there's a compulsive quality to Nedra's remarks.
The behavior fits my assessment of Nedra as a flaming five star narcissist. She's a particular female subtype: very engaging but not warm, funny, energetic, smart; good looking in a 'handsome woman' vs. 'beautiful woman' way, and at times displaying a certain mannishness; highly competitive but often subtle about it. This type tends to be fascinated with sexuality, sexual power, and especially with anything sexually unusual or edgy, although the preoccupation is frequently projected or displaced. The N has a disordered need for power and control that goes hand in hand with the sexual preoccupation since both are forms of lust.
Every time I think about Nedra I feel compassion for PR. The damage narcissistic mothers do to their daughters is deep, and if the daughter is both talented and over-adjusted, as I believe PR was, the resulting fragility often doesn't surface until the woman is in her 30s, when the demands of life begin to overwhelm her compensations.
I happen to be of the BDI persuasion and believe killing JBR was conscious and deliberate. If PDI is the case, it's more complex. Killing JBR would have been, paradoxically, intentional but not consciously so. As I've said elsewhere on the board, I've theorized about PR as an atypical murderer; i.e., a person who kills out of passion or unconscious compulsion but whose action is so completely antithetical to her usual behavior and self-concept that she represses it immediately and truly does not remember doing it.
Was she often telling the truth with those "I don't remember" answers? Was her perplexity about "who could have done this?" a fixation? I've wondered. It would explain why JR's change in demeanor mid morning on the 26th, if he realized PR must have done it but had no recollection. It would explain PR's focus on Who? and JR's on Why? It would illuminate some of the very strange phrasing In PR's interview answers. One example (from the 1998 interview):
2 PATSY RAMSEY: (INAUDIBLE) if she
3 got up in the night and ran into somebody,
there Why not "intruder"? Who was/wasn't
supposed to be there?
4
was somebody there that wasn't supposed to be
5
there.I don't know what transpired after that,
Don't know or don't remember? If intruder, why ??? re intent?
6
whether it was an accident, intentional,
7 premeditated or what not. There was not one of Twisted syntax = twisted process
8
her three family members that were also in that
9 house, period, end of statement.
10 If you want to, you know,
keep Whose dream, Patsy?
11
talking on a dream like this.
Long post, I know. My ponderings, but perhaps of interest to some
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