It's true. My 15 year-old cousin says the craziest and meanest things about my aunt and uncle on her Twitter. She is very dramatic and "emotional" and sometimes I am shocked by the things she says and the foul language she uses. That being said, I think much of what Sierra has tweeted is to be expected for a girl her age in this day and age, but I have to admit I was pretty appalled with some of the things she tweeted. Frequent use of the "n" word, all the talk about drugs, the music she listened to, etc. Maybe it's a regional thing, but she does seem to be more into the whole "gangsta" kind of lifestyle which I'm not sure we can say all teenage girls are into.
A few years ago I was dating a guy with a teenaged daughter the same age as mine. They did not get along, as mine was "goth" and his was a popular cheerleader. When my daughter spent a weekend with her dad, I would sometimes hang out with his daughter. I liked her a lot, and she opened up to me about things her dad "would have freaked out about." I think she underestimated him, as she left drug parapernalia and cigarette butts in her room, went to "parties" several nights a week, always leaving the house in sweats. He HAD to know, and I was going through some of the same with MY daughter, but when I'd relate what mine had done, he would say he was lucky his did not do that. It was actually a factor in our relationship ending.
I was concerned by some of the risks she took, and frequently told her Dad she was someplace she was not. She went on a weekend ski trip with a group of friends and her dad had no idea. He did not think she "dated" but she told me about guys she was "talking to" which I believe is a prelude to dating in today's vernacular.
I tried to be her friend, and give her advice (i.e. ata MINIMUM, make sure to have your health insurance card with you if you go skiing without telling your dad, and let ME know where you will REALLY be in case something happens. I really liked her, and still do. I just did not want to see her make mistakes, and when she started getting tattoes in her senior year (after quiting acrobatics and cheer) I worried. It was very clear from her Facebook page that she wore things at the parties that were VERY suggestive, and numerous photos showed her drinking beer or participating in drinking games.
While I do NOT think he ever looked at her Facebook, I asked her to "clean it up" a bit. I kept thinking about girls her age who "vanish" (she was starting college in a few months) and I told her that she owed it to her dad to get rid of anything that might upset or embarass him, or cause LE to take any crimes against her less seriously. I told her that the 483 "friends" she had on Facebook would sell those photos to media in a heartbeat if there was enough incentive to do so, and her father's heart would be broken twice.
After he and I stopped dating, she and I kept in touch. She has a lot of HUGE tattoos and facial piercings, but seems to be doing well now. She lives with a BF she has been with for quite some time, is now 21 and can drink legally, and has a super job. But jsut before this, she was "in a relationship" (per Facebook) with some hoodlum DJ/rapper guy. If she put anything mushy on his wall, he deleted it. He never posted ANYTHING to suggest he was in a relationship, ahd lots of girls posted things on his page that made him sound like a player. I finally got M**** to ask him why he would not accept her "relationship status request" on Facebook, or at least change his status from SINGLE to something indicating she existed.
He got arrested and she was dumb enough to raise his bond. I was very worried about what would happen to her during that relationship. The guy had facial tattoos (someone referred to these as "everlasting jobstoppers" *LOL*) and talked "ghetto". She actually did this during the relationship with him, and it was embarassing to see this smart girl using lousy grammar and poor spelling to be "cool".
I knew she WAS "getting into the gangsta life" and by being there when she needed to talk and keeping what she said confidential, I was able to make her realize she could do better. And she did. She now posts status updates that are spelled and punctuated properly and most of them are about her BF or her interest in rescue animals and stopping animal cruelty.
Sorry if O/T
