cluciano63
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I think it is VERY unlikely that she left voluntarily. The only way I see this happening is some sort of mental incident (which she has shown no signs of in the past).
She is very shy and has a certain degree of social anxieties. Her home and her family is her "safe zone". I cannot stress enough that for her to suddenly disappear and run off would be so far out of her character. Further, she would have no place to go, that we are aware of. We have talked to all family members and friends (which is a relatively small circle - we are a small family). There has been no evidence of emails or phone calls to strange people/numbers. She was very excited for her new grandbaby. There were no significant problems at home - they have a stable, good relationship - 35 years worth of memories. There is just no way in my mind that she left voluntarily, unless, again, there was some mental component.
I realize I'm just posts on a message board to everyone - I understand that. But for what it's worth, I would be honest with myself if I thought there was something amiss in the household. I like to think that I am not an idealist who pretends to live in some perfect world. But the type of behavior that would lead someone to kill their spouse, and to cover it up to the degree necessary (which requires significant planning and thought) as would be in this case where NOTHING has been found by police or other family, does not just pop up out of no where. There are patterns, both before, and after. These patterns are not there. I know as this drags on and there are more questions than answers, the thoughts will continue to go back to the person who could have done it the easiest. But just keep this in mind. Ignoring disposition, for my father to have pulled this off, with the police finding nothing after searching the house for 6 hours, copying their computer hard drive, searching cars, talking to all his family members, friends, co-workers, checking out his locations and whereabouts before, after, and during, would just be amazing (especially when you understand my dad is not very tech savvy or some sort of expert in forensics, etc...he's worked in retail all his life, and has always been a pretty simple, happy guy - loves his dog, likes to occasionally play golf or other recreational sport, likes cribbage, the Giants (baseball), etc.). I don't mean to rant, but I wish there was a better way I could help everyone understand who my dad is, so they can see what his friends and family see. I get that the questions will be (and have been) asked - and that is what this site is for - so I'm not criticizing anyone or asking anyone not to ask the questions, but I just want people to realize the other side of the coin as well.
I totally can't imagine her leaving and even if she had a mental episode she should have been found long ago.