EchointheDark
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We don't even need a developmental history.. it's the same ol' story. A personality disordered "insert mothers name" and a "insert fathers name" too weak & beaten down by (more likely than not, his OWN personality disordered mother and then the woman he married to take his mommy's place. OR he was smart enough to leave her a$$ but was too self centered to worry about what she'd do to the children and just moved on with his life) his wife to do a f^c#in' thing about it. So the children live their lives feeling lonely, unloved & worthless. They never know what to expect from the mother ( for example- is she going to love me today or is it going to be my fault the car broke down?... is she going to make dinner today or is she going to scream and yell about how she's the only person who does anything around here and if we want to eat feed our own damn selves!) so there is constant fear.
They grow up having their feelings.. their emotions invalidated & belittled. Their childhood, their lives are never about them, it's always about the mother and what she wants and what she expects. She berates her "loved ones" in private but equates them to G0d Himself in public. She is chaotic (draaamaaa), she lies, blame shifts, compliments one day the same thing she ridicules the next, she pits the children against one another, sometimes just for fun she'll pit the father and children against one another (of course, leaving no proof of this). Then she sits back and watches the show.. pointing fingers and blaming and ridiculing the entire time.
I know some of the story changes depending on the people involved but the behaviors are the same.
Anyway, I'm sure you don't need me to school you on the "ism's" of personality disorders :crazy:. My own word salad here (LOL) was just to say that IMO the "developmental history" is that these are children who are hostages of a parent with untreated personality disorders. They can't leave, they can't choose. So they learn to cope as best they can.
Are you my sister?