FrayedKnot
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You might want to investigate whether your daughter has Asperger syndrome rather than ADHD. I was told repeatedly that my youngest son had ADHD when he was a young boy but I knew what that was and had seen lots of kids with that and in my mind, it didn't really fit what my son's problem was. One Dr who tested him back then said as soon as he met our son that she could tell right away that he did not have ADHD and she was the only one who had said that. He is now 25 and we are now convinced beyond doubt that he has Asperger's which is a high functioning form of autism. Our son has a very high IQ is extremely gifted but cannot relate to other people like a normal person and his views of the world and how it works is what I would call, warped. The thing about Asperger's is that it manifests differently as they get older and to deal with it, you have to start when the kid is young in teaching them how to manage it.
Because of her high IQ, Asperger's was one of MY initial concerns but after several evals, it was pretty evident she didn't have some of the other markers usually seen in Asperger's. She has no SI difficulties and is socially on target and has no problems relating to peers or adults. *shew*.
I guess I thought that all kids with ADHD were hyper, out of control, and performed poorly in school. So when my child was making honor roll but having conduct issues because of talking ALL of the time and blurting out answers, etc. I assumed it couldn't be ADHD. I wasn't even aware ADHD had a 'spectrum'.
Which is why I started to wonder about KC and her impulsive, reckless behavior. If she does, in fact, have ADHD and her parents were in denial or simply not educated or informed and never learned the parenting skills necessary to help her (or got her on meds-not wanting to start a debate on that-just mentioning ANY help for ADHD) is it possible that the ADHD could have morphed into full blown evil like the KC who killed her baby?
I am not making excuses, I am just wondering based on the similarity of behaviors in untreated ADHD and KC.
We always remind our daughter that her ADHD might make it harder to make good choices, but it isn't an excuse. There are all kinds of coping skills parents can teach their children and sometimes letting them fall on their faces is a very valuable teaching tool! You know if the homework is still sitting on the table and you get marked off for it, you might remember to put it in your backpack next time.
I wonder how things might have differed if CA had let KC suffer a consequence or two when she was younger and the consequences weren't as dire. It seems she just covered for and cleaned up after KC from day one.
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