I'm not sure what it is you are looking for, keep in mind I was married to him over 20 years ago, times were different. It was a time when the police did not have the authority to arrest, someone had to leave the premises. I could sit here all night and tell of incidences that happened, but it would not help out. Bottom line is that I want people to know that MR is a manipulator and dang good at it. It was driving me nuts hearing people say how caring he appeared to be.
Common sense tells you that none of us know what goes on behind closed doors, the wonderful family to the neighbors is not the wonderful family that is living it.
Profile what an abusive man does, hmmmm, alienate the partner from family (check) make the partner dependant (check) lower self esteem and worth of the partner (check) over emphasize your worth, devalue others, excuse wrong behavior, blame others, deflect fault, oh the list goes on.
There is something wrong with a person that never accepts responsibility for their actions, they did this because that person did that. Gosh if I could tell you how many times it was my fault that it snowed and the drive needed shoveling.
None of this will help bring Dylan back. I just want you all to have a clearer picture of who MR is, what MR is.
Biggest thing, why is it that his children that are old enough to make a decision, to have a choice, CHOOSE not to have contact with him?