katydid23
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You are right.......total differences as to how they handle cases even though they are both in the same state but a different jurisdiction has their own ways of doing things.
We really dont know these people but she seems to have a lot of anger even after 5 years and it isnt uncommon for one of the parents to try to drive a wedge between the child and the other parent either.
Some have enough respect and deep love for the child to never speak badly in the presence of their children about their father or mother while others make me cringe.......thats all they do is put them down as if it is some obession that the child must hate the parent too. I have even seen some children afraid to tell the parent they live with that they deeply love the other parent and really do want to see them. They will cover up and not tell the truth just trying to appease the angry parent. It is heartbreaking how children are caught up in the middle of the parents drama.
I had a lot of differences with my ex. He even tried to kill me and almost did when I left him but not once would I ever try to turn our children against their own father no matter how I felt about him at the time. Now I have long forgiven him and he is no longer that man I feared for so many years.
My husband and I consider him our friend and its so much better for our children to see us all get a long so well. He is invited to every special event we have for the kids or grands.
I still say that LE would have questioned her. It wouldnt be the first parent that has taken revenge on an ex hoping he/she would lose custody or visitation rights permanently.
One of my best friends is a Judge who handles divorce/custody cases and he said you wouldnt believe the lies hurled in them back and forth. He said he has found more people lie in divorce/custody cases than any other type of case and he has been a Judge for 35 years or more.
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Listening to mom on NG, imo, she does not sound full of anger or bitterness...she sounds like she is full of pain and fear.
And she PASSED her polygraph. I think the outcome of Dad's poly is still up in the air.
Also, I am sorry to hear about the turmoil between you and your ex husband. But I have to say, with all due respect, if he tried to kill you once, then I am not sure you can say with all certainty that he would have never harmed your kids. Anytime a person's anger gets so out of control that they attempt to kill someone, then that person is very unpredictable and erratic. JMO