I think he knew but chose not to believe it.
I think both kids likely told AS and LH multiple stories about how LS treated them when AS wasn’t present . I think LH likely relayed those same issues to AS too.
I just think he chose to believe TS over others imo. Coupled with the fact that I bet she didn’t treat them the same when he was around. Most abusers know how to toe the line in front of others
I’m not saying AS could have ever imagined that she was capable of harming them in such a way, but I’ll guarantee here were warning signs that were ignored
jmo
How does one
not know?
Because the abuse occurs when no one is there to witness it. Because the child is threatened with all sorts of terrible things if they speak up. So it remains a secret to the other parent. Until something happens. Until something is noticed.
Being a member here, and reading about all manner of death, kidnapping, and other mayhem, can make us very aware of the evil in the world, and we can recognize more easily those who would harm another. Most people are not like us.
Also, most manipulators are masters at using people’s (the victims) doubts and innocence against them to achieve what they want.
Several posters here have mentioned their own experiences in, first, noticing and recognizing manipulation used against them, and secondly, getting others within their sphere to understand what is happening. That isn’t easy.
We hear in many, many cases where the accused is the nicest person, wouldn’t hurt anyone, could never have done such an evil deed. The non-WS person wants to believe what they have known to be true, whether it is or not.
My DH had a relative who, early in our marriage, would make suggestive remarks to me. But the relative was so smooth and sleazy, if I said anything or repeated what had been said to me, I was taking the comment the wrong way, he didn’t mean it that way, etc. Oh yes, he did. He meant it, and ogled ever the more. Others just couldn’t see it, didn’t want to see it, didn’t believe it happened as stated. I must have “misunderstood.”
I’ve had several other experiences with manipulators, but all run along much the same line.
So, I have sympathy for AS. I’m sure LS was as smooth and sleazy as others I’ve known, and unless a person is aware of how a master manipulator works, that person can be fooled. The children in that household were no match for LS. She had all the power.
I’ve wondered if abuse was just beginning to manifest, especially if the marriage had recently become troubled. I also think that with HH on the way out the door, LS wanted to be free of children that were not her own.
Maybe AS was beginning to regret his adultery with, and subsequent marriage to LS. She knew that, and became resentful, big time. I imagine she set to work building a phalanx of supporters. She’s likely used people all of her life, has enhanced and embellished every situation she’s involved in to her benefit, and figured she could charm her way out of anything. Or play the poor me story and get support for her poor wronged self.
May justice for Gannon and his family be swift and sure.