cluciano63
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Kind of on topic, but off topic..
All these cases over the years involving seemingly and reported ‘nice’ men who have murdered spouses, spouses/children to have a different life has really compelled me to search for answers as to why. Why do they choose to murder? We all ask the same question- why didn’t he just divorce, leave, walk away? Instead they sit on death row or with life sentences, or commit suicide in the end- knowing the law is closing in. Some I’m sure get away with it, but most do not. I believe the answer is it is directly associated with ‘toxic shame’. When shame pathologically turns to rage we see these murders happening. I’ve been doing some very interesting reading on the subject and it offers very logical connections to this phenomenon we see happening over and over. There’s quite a bit of interesting material out there on the subject. And there’s my PSA for the day.
In many cases, it turns out to be financial...especially on “Snapped” lol, when women kill their husbands. Almost always a big insurance policy, or a business to inherit etc. Custody and child support/alimony is another one, especially if the killing spouse is having an affair. I read in one book that some men think it will cost less to have full custody, with wife out of the picture, than to share custody and pay.
But...if done in an instant, i.e not planned, then more likely jealousy, hurt pride, imo.