BBM
Even if you hadn't made it clear you were not a woman,
it is clear you are not a woman.
It's also clear you haven't had discussions with lots of smart women who've had stars in their eyes and loved a man in spite of himself.
They often don't hear words or see actions through the same lens you might.
It happens a lot and, though the repercussions aren't always as great as Kelsey's, they are often life-altering.
Regarding your final sentence, a wise psychologist once told me, "Don't should on yourself and don't should on others." Some of the best advice I ever got. He said to substitute, "Wouldn't it be nice if...."
Wouldn't it have been nice if Kelsey had seen Patrick Frazee for what he was in the very beginning?" Yes.