BBM - I agree with you! He abused Suzanne in a different way and nothing he can say or do will change that at this point. I hope his wife looks long and hard at the man she is married to.
I hope all of this has been a metaphorical bucket of cold water to JL's face and a call to rise to the occasion. There's enough brokenness in the world. What we need is more determination to work toward wholeness after playing any part in opening fissures that threaten the well-being of others.
Marriages sometimes become stale, people age and mourn unrealized dreams, and in that self-pitying state, some make mistakes that hurt those they love. Foolish mistakes that jeopardize what they value more than any of those unrealized dreams. I think that is what JL did.
There is plenty of this with abundant social media when it is so easy to reconnect with people known in the past or met more recently and to keep those connections hidden. I have several friends and relatives who've committed such stupid mistakes and thankfully, most have recovered the relationships they took for granted and endangered.
With admission of failure, contrition, determination to improve, it is possible to rebuild to whole if parties involved are willing to consider the possibility of forgiveness and mending. But, it takes a lot of honest and painful self-reflection and hard work on the part of all involved.
I don't know this guy, I don't know his wife, and I don't know what kind of stuff they've done to hurt or neglect each other, but I hope that six children are strong motivators to repairing the nest those kids depend on.
I know investigators have seen it all, but I am so sorry that they did not have this man's help from the beginning and I marvel at the kind appeal they made to bring him out of hiding when he didn't come forward on his own. There are some very big and patient hearts out there in LE.