I don't understand what it is you think people should do on a discussion forum dealing with true crime. Are you saying that people shouldn't draw conclusions of one kind or another? That they shouldn't make inferences about this or that or shouldn't propose theories regarding what might have occurred? Are you saying they shouldn't conclude that so-and-so is the perp or that so-and-so is not the perp? Why? One, what is the point of discussing true crime aside from doing these things? What else is there to talk about? Two, who does this harm? Provided no one is misrepresenting the facts of the case --- something that is not allowed here --- and provided no one is simply saying horrible things about someone involved in the case --- something that is also not allowed here --- no one is harmed by my saying, "I think BM is responsible for SM's disappearance," nor is anyone harmed by Poster818987 saying, "I don't think BM is responsible," nor is anyone harmed from your saying, "I don't think we have enough facts in the case to say one way or another."
Many people here have concluded, for a variety of reasons, that BM is responsible for SM's disappearance. This seems to bother you, but I don't really understand why. No one is saying they know he is responsible, because no one can reasonably say that. No one is saying there's no chance they've misinterpreted this or that aspect of this case, because of course it's possible that people have misinterpreted this or that aspect of this case.
However, many here are of the opinion that BM is responsible for SM's disappearance, and again, many people here have come to this conclusion for a variety of reasons. No one is saying this simply because they don't "like the look of his eyes" and no one is ghoulishly wishing harm upon him or showering him with invective. People have simply assessed the facts of the case and determined that a variety of things point to BM. Why does this bother you so?
Respectfully, the threads have been cleaned up a bit. That is exactly what has disturbed me. Some HAVE speculated somewhat wildly, on the way he waved his arms, the M on the gate at their former home, etc. IMO
We have few facts, most based on likelihood of person closest to victim being the perpetrator. Our perceptions of LE could be flawed. JMHO
Those of us who continue to keep an open mind have been shut down here, perhaps simply because we have more productive things to do. Rather than rehash the same things on the few “facts” we continue to look for the other pois. There are several of those, and I for one refuse to get drawn into another discussion, simply because I have been ridiculed. (Yesterday, quite pointed, aimed at my random abductor)
Random abductions do occur. They are not as rare as claimed here. Yes, SM does appear to be at low risk, on the risk continuum, however her solo bike rides move the needle.
Whenever some of us post, trying to keep an open mind, it becomes a discussion bent on making us choose a side.
This began many threads ago and continued. Many of us who have not been convinced of BMs guilt, are silent.
You can s n i p the really nasty posts, but some of us do have long memories, the texts do not just go away.
This is my personal perception, but off forum discussions, have texted similar concerns.
I check in regularly, if I sense a chance for a fair discussion, I stay. Lately less and less. Those of you who have read my texts, will be shocked at how this comes across, I am a very easygoing person. Enough’s enough, for me. I can be feisty, just saying.