Originally Posted by Duckley
Perhaps the classic case of too little too late...
Cindy should not feel guilty for finally taking action - she quite possibly should feel guilty for year of inaction. I find it hard to feel sorry for Cindy - no matter how hard I try. She is not responsbile for the death of Caylee for sure but I believe she is responsible for enabling KC's behaviour.
I will totally feel sorry for her and gladly take back my sentiments if someone can indicate to me that she and George have had family therapy and mental health professionals involved over the years.
If they have had help and tried to take advantage of professional intervention then like I said I will take back every word and ask for forgiveness. I just havent been able to determine if they have had that sort of help.
I believe Cindy has covered up for KC for years. It seems that anything that doesnt fit with Cindy's version of what a family should be does not exist. George silently colludes. The rules are rigid - the family is enmeshed. KC is like the whirling dervish - exhausting to try to keep up with her - I get that. Living with a mentally ill person must be incredably challenging. Hats off to anyone who copes with this. The family needed help. The family needed to get help. If they did not get help then to me its like knowing your child is physically ill and choosing not to go to the doctor - just convincing yourself that its just a cold or even denying that your child is ill period! When you finally go to the doctor and find out that the child's health is now at serious risk is the parent to blame? The parent didnt cause the illness, but not getting treatment exacerbated it... I know it is not that black and white when it comes to mental illness so perhaps the analogy is not totally fair. And yes, it was not just Cindy - everyone has their role to play...
It seems like Lee is willing to risk his future with criminal charges and George seeks death as an escape from his pain... Do they all engage in a conspiracy of silence and denial? It seems so odd to me. I understand supporting family and wanting to stand behind your daughter but I also understand the risk of wearing blinders.
But whatever Cindy may or may not have done one thing cannot be denied. She loved Caylee. The sheer panic in her voice when she contacted the police (in contrast to KC's almost matter of fact, informational tone) was real. I commend Cindy for that.
Sorry for the rant
Duckley.....I don't think you are ranting...I pretty much think you are "right on". About the only thing I disagree about is Cindy. IMHO, I don't think Cindy was enabling Casey, I just think she was sick and tired of dealing with her and having to always walk on eggshells around her. Cindy DID go see a therapist about Casey and the therapist advised her to have Casey move out on her own and try to take care of Caylee by herself. Obviously didn't work....Caylee's death is what happened as a result, and I think that is why Cindy feels so guilty and is in denial about Casey. Because if it's true that when Cindy had the fight with Casey on the night of June 15th, and she might have said something like "we need you to move out Casey", and then Casey FREAK'D about it and killed Caylee, then obviously Cindy, in her own mind, feels very guilty....even tho she really isn't...but that is what Cindy is fighting to not have her mind know....sort of a unconscious self-preservation thing. Have you ever noticed in the jailhouse visits between Cindy, George and Casey that Cindy is very sad, hangs her head low in mental and emotional pain, and George can't even make eye contact with Casey and all the while Casey is ranting to her mom to not ask her any questions because "SHE DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING....SHE'S BEEN STUCK IN JAIL, SHE'S OUT OF TOUCH WITH EVERYONE...BLAH BLAH BLAH". I watched that August 11th (I think) visit that continued for about 30 minutes or so and that's all Casey could say. She didn't want to help to offer ANY information or to even TALK about possibilities of where Caylee might be. All she wanted to talk about was herself. This is what Cindy was sick and tired of and had been dealing with for probably years with that monster daughter of hers. I do agree about George...he just tried to keep the peace.
No...I have "absolutely" NO ill feelings towards Cindy or George. They tried. They just didn't know who or what they were up against with such a diabolical lying, scheming little witch of a daughter she had.
I've read your posts with great interest, and I do have some, alas firsthand, insight into their relationship but only in a milder form. Nevertheless, for that reason I have to constantly fight against my extremely negative reaction to virtually everything Cindy says and does. It's instictive, so I can't be completely sure it's merited or not. Gee, I have a hunch that last sentence will tell you a whole lot about where my insight into CA's personality came from. :blowkiss:
