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BBM,
I wanted to respond to this last night. However, my wi-fi acted up and I was sooo disappointed since I was on my new MacBook Pro my hubby bought me as an xmas gift!! Couldn't get the internet back up!!!
First, I want to say from my observations about all these occurrences that I think ST is a class act. With all the negavity displayed from DT at time when in my opinion she should have risen above it and her issues with ST should have been the furthest from her mind - example: Press Conference where she stated he would not be staying at her house. This before Somer has even been found. Regardless, of what her issues were with ST - Somer was still his child. From looking at her past and her myriad of fathers of her children it tells me that isn't something too important to her. My opinion of course. DT leaving ST out of the obituary - well, I for one was one of the first to defend DT way back when stating we didn't know who he was etc.. I TOTALLY retract my prior statement from back in October. Even though ST had bascially been deemed a piece of dirt by what DT said about him in public. He still took the high road when interviewed by the press when it came to discussing DT. Class Act.
Second, Chicken I disagree slightly with you about the pastor. I know your perception is the pastor didn't do his job. Maybe he didn't. But my perception from reading was a little different. It sounds to me that DT basically all but controlled the situation with the pastor. He is obviously a man of god and IMO, picked up on her distain for ST and knew this might cause a scene or ruckus after learning more about DT and her behavior. If I were him I would be perplexed by having this mother who just suffered such a tragic blow with a loss of a child and her issues of the day are with ST??? Sounds like her priorities are a little messed up and again puts her own feelings over the memory of her daughter Somer and what was to be a celebration of a life ended tragically and too soon. My opinion is that the pastor was caught in between a rock and a hard place. I am sure had it been up to him ST would have attended the luncheon - but how as a pastor do you confront this mother who just lost her child??? I am sure it would have seemed insensitive from DT standpoint because IMO, it all about her. I think it is TELLING that he said" he was sorry for the problems".. So this just confirms that he was aware of the PROBLEMS - apparently these were of DT's making/doing because as far as I can see ST didn't instigate anything from what we are told. BTW, IMO she doesn't act like a woman who was just saved. With how ST was being treated he in my book is acting of a man with much class.
Third, something else I find remarkable is that even as we are told LE states they are not on one side or another!!! They will work for Somer! As it should be about SOMER!! Because this is ALL ABOUT SOMER!!! God rest her soul! I could imagine being an LE officer and a child goes missing, turns up murdered and the issues is about the parents not getting along??? P A T H E T I C --IMO!!! To the point of where LE even comments on this to one of the parents. I would love to be a fly on the wall to hear LE take on this dynamic!!!
It doesn't take a million dollars to have class. It doesn't even take a penny. Class is something you have or you don't - it can not be purchased. Regardless of what a past situation has been with these two -- ST showed class in this particular situation.
To respond to something else a poster commented on here -
I think it is beyond strange and very TELLING (meaning something aint right here) that DT was not walking closely with her children at Somer's service. WHY???? Here she was leaning on PC the bf with no blood relation - and esp with the oldest sibling who walked as a loner -not wanting kids to talk to ST- Again, putting herself before her children who prob needed her more than anything at this moment in time. And she is leaning on her "man" -- MO, her number 1 priority just as I have been saying she puts her own needs above her children - no reason why she should have a live-in BF with her children in this type of situation. Putting "her" feelings about ST as forefront even while Somer has not be found yet - I guess I am being judgmental here but so be it. It is my opinion and how I look at everything from MY standpoint.
I also agree with Chickenpants about how the exterior is how behavior is analyzed and shows a lot of what a person is about. Including, her low cut dress. Someone asked if any of us knew anyone who would wear a dress like that to a funeral? Yes, I do know a few people would wear something like that or have at a some different cousins funerals I have attended - rough, riden, and no class of the few I know that come to mind.
This whole thing just makes me queesy. It is my opinion based on information that has been offered as "rumor" - even though I think a first hand account from SAD who was there and say and heard certain things with her own eyes and ears could be taken as face value IMO. Along with things we have seen with our own eyes. Myspaces, media video, interviews etc etc...
