I tend to usually think everybody (on WS threads) is guilty (and they usually are).
I jumped on the bandwagon here, but I think I am moving back from it. It just doesn't make sense to me. He is in line for a promotion, they are looking at houses in good school districts, they seem to make enough money to afford a house. We haven't yet received any information he has a drug/gambling/hooker addiction and they are desperate for money.
What's the motive? Of course there are evil sick people in the world (there are hundred of pages of threads on WS!). But this guy appears pretty normal (sure we can pick apart his reddit posts and make judgments) and it would take a horrible person to leave their precious child in a car suffocating while he is in his office right next door).
Or maybe, just this once, I want it to be an accident and have it not be another evil monster killing a child. So, I have to just have hope.
The problem with a lot of people who examine situations like this IMVHO is that they really have no idea what it is like to deal with a parent who simply doesn't want children deep down inside.
I'm normally loathe to bring up personal experience because I know nothing about this guy and I'm certainly not going to presume that my experiences have anything to do with him at all.
However, some people have kids because "that's what you are supposed to do" "that's the American Dream" "that's what proves success" etc etc
In my own experience my mother has 6 kids 6! And now later looking back I have absolutely no idea in the world why she did. She considered her kids an "extension of herself" "evidence that she was a fertile mama" and she actually had 12 pregnancies in total, but lost 6 because of RH factor issues back then. (or so we are told, but in hindsight, there were many incidents of her throwing herself down the stairs in a fit of hystrionics instead of just having an abortion because she was Catholic.)
At first she was the perfect mom. Girls dressed in matching outfits etc. But she eventually just lost it. Now I can see her and I can see she had no concept of what "loving your child" meant, in a way that is normal to others. It always fascinated me when I had my three boys before my sisters and I'd say to them "I can't wait for you guys to have kids" they considered it a snide comment that I wanted them to also go through the "hell that is having children" The way we were raised there wasn't a natural parental bond with the kids. My mother was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. She just couldn't even comprehend children outside her own paradigm of existence and eventually became a brutal vicious woman because she just didn't get it. Outwardly she went through the motions. Outwardly she was the mom that made cupcakes for the class and had Easter baskets every Easter and was a Sunday school teacher. But inside our home it was another dimension altogether.
This in some ways may make me seem biased. And I concede to that. But I also think that unless you've seen the dark side of the human experience of parents like this, you have no way of understanding what it can be like.
I don't know this man. But I do know that many parents, and not just my own, are ill equipped to deal with the reality of children. They "go through the motions" but deep inside they are adrift.
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