LinasK
Verified insider- Mark Dribin case
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Pure speculation on my part, but couples who are going through infertility can immerse themselves in that process (women, in particular, for obvious reasons) to the point that they are so unfocused on their actual relationship, they don't have one when the baby finally comes. Then, the first few months/years of the newness of being a family with a child continues to take a lot of focus off the relationship and then someone finally wakes up and goes wait, I've got what I thought I wanted, but it's not at all the way I thought it would be. Maybe a little of that going on here. They were married for quite some time before Cooper was born. And considering their religious bent, I don't see them having waited very long to try and conceive. jmo
Meant to reply to this earlier, but we left for the county fair. I disagree. We had more than one miscarriage prior to having my daughter by IVF. My husband remained close to me, and was extremely involved and supportive. In fact, he was the one to suggest IVF. He went with me to all my appointments and was there when I had miscarried. It did NOT take the focus off our marriage. The depressing part of giving birth is that my daughter was born with GERD, so she cried constantly until we got her diagnosed and on the proper meds at 9 months. I thought I was going through Post-Partum depression, and got very little sleep until then. I didn't kill my daughter, neither did he, and my marriage lasted. We've been married 20 years.