OK his family is making me furious .. and his past is making me furious. Here we have a guy that because he is FAMOUS and some kind of HERO because he can run fast on blades (which frankly I always thought gave him a massive unfair advantage) was given a pass on many incidents which showed that he had a violent streak and should have been taken as a warning sign. PERHAPS if his stupid family wasn't so invested in enabling him he wouldn't have committed this horrible crime and Reeva would still be alive. I hope they wake up to themselves at some stage in the future and admit he is not the great hero they wish the world to think he is, admit that they played a large part in creating a monster, and come down from their high horse, and show some humility.
If they keep going down the road they are on they are only going to alienate themselves from society even more.
Your son has committed a horrible crime, he had shown a propensity for violence before this horrible crime that he failed to address and that you helped him sweep under the rug, a girl has died. He needs to take responsibility for that, and you need to take responsibility for enabling him his entire life.
I'm sorry but I think this is horribly unfair. I also don't think it's right to call his family "stupid". There was a probable murder by their son. How do you glean from that that they were "enabling him his entire life"? Do you know this family?
All I see is a father who stated that the public takes as much glee building someone into a hero as they do tearing them down. Thats true. Schadenfreude exists The father doesn't come right out and says his son is 100% innocent in that quote. In fact, he says they are realistic and know what he faces.
I'm not sure why they should bashed for their statements or for Oscars actions.
Read from his affadavit into court:
http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/Oscar-describes-how-Reeva-died-20130219
So let me get this straight. Reeva's in bed. He goes out to the balcony (he says he has mobility on his stumps), hears a noise, must go back to the bed to get his gun....but doesn't notice that Reeva isn't there? Wouldn't he think to wake her up or say "did you hear that?"
I would love to see a layout of the house. Where is the balcony? Where is the bathroom?
What kind of burglar locks themselves in the toilet? That just doesn't make sense to me.
Wouldn't he call out to her to or to whoever was in the bathroom first to find out where his girlfriend was? It seems instinctive that someone would call out "Reeva?" to see if it was her in there, even if he was "scared." He is toast as was stated earlier.
There are a lot of men who would not call out or ask their mate, "did you hear that"? One of my brothers and my law partner are two such men. They view protection of the home and the family as their domain. They take the responsibility very seriously. Both have described to me walking quietly around their homes with a gun or a bat, leaving a sleeping wife in the bed while they check for intruders and check all possible entries. I warned the one who was carying a gun about accidentally shooting a child or their wife in the night. That almost happened to my godfather in fact. He heard anoise, jumped out of bed, grabbed his gun and almost shot what hE thought was an intruder in the kitchen until the figure said, "Al, it's me!". It was his wife.
Accidental shootings of family happen like this all the time. And South Africa is a vastly more dangerous country than the U.S. so people there are even more prone to instant fear of an intruder and rushing to defend the home.
That being said, the facts suggest this was not an accident.
But I wanted to point out that for many men, their first instinct would not be tO check on their supposedly sleeping wife or to ask their women to confirm a scary noise. It is to jump up and defend. Frankly, I think that comes from worry over the responsibility of protecting their family and home and fear they may not be up to the task.