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Well I know of 2 who went over the edge after their child died. 1 happened to be a swimming pool accident (back in the 70's) and the other one was a car accident. Both women went out of control almost immediatly.
One was drinking daily/nightly, sleeping with anyone who would have her and at the funeral she looked like she was having a really good time....4 years later she killed herself...
The 2nd one happened to be married but showed no grief at all. She cleaned out the room and made it into a den 2 weeks after the accident, she would take down the pictures daily and her husband would put them back up. She was sporting the most expensive clothing you could buy and she refused to go to the grave. It wasn't until her husband threatened to leave her that the truth was discovered. They were 1000's of dollars in debt but the biggest thing was she agreed to counciling and it was then that she pulled out her journal. The one she had been writing in since the day after the funeral to her son that died..the one that she thought was still alive...It's been about 4 years now and she is getting better. She's even thinking about having another baby but it was a tough tough road for her.
Everyone mourns different. It does happen and I thank God everyday that I never had to go through something like that.
I agree that there are variations in how people grieve. But in the examples you describe above both women went out of control and acted differently than they had before.
This is quite the opposite of Casey's behavior. None of her friends found any difference in her behavior.
A lack of response to a daughter's death is evidence, IMO, to sociopathy and lack of true love, NOT an alternative form of grief.