Hey everyone. Gosh - buried at work this week. I'll try and post something here just to let everyone know I'm ok and I spoke to XBF.
Conversation was stable and non threatening - to either him or I. I did and do not want XBF to feel that I am against him. We/I just need him to clear up the questions that we/I have had since the moment we left. I think having him in our ballpark might be a compliment to this case. I am not completely sure of the innocence tho. I just can't read into it. I did try to explain the situation myself and my family has been in since the moment I/we walked off the property and how his connections with everything since... that our thoughts and questions are bound by those reasons for the posts and forums. Being tied at the hip with "A" in the house and in the heart of the group, he was/is needed to fill in the gaps and holes of the questions. He seemed to understand and was willing to talk. Some/most questions were answered with 'i can't remember' or 'I don't know why I said that or that was done' - so how do you come to terms with those? 'XBF' stated that he did not see or hear any unusual behavior before or after the murders with "A" or anyone in that crowd. XBF Said the spending was just unbelievable after the murders and he was surprised that there would be any $$ left over today. He also said that all of his actions - from ignoring us and the no contact - was because of "A"'s request. Also said his actions was because he was trying to help and please her due to her circumstances - parents being murdered. He felt LE and family looked at him as suspect becuz he was 'the new guy'. I certainly can't ask XBF the reasons for 'A" behavior. He would/could not be accounted for her actions. I simply wanted to know about his and what he might have seen or heard before or after. Pretty vague. Almost like there was absolutely nothing strange or bizarre that happened in his eyes. How does one take that? XBF also said he asked several times for "A" to look into stones for grave and he was told not to ask anymore.
On the note with stones... brother did some investigating and located the place where "A" requested stones in Aug 2006. She went in and asked, chose and was given an invoice for a $5,000 stone. Person remembered her personally. Company asked for deposit before it can be ordered. She never went back nor paid a deposit. Brother and I can't find anywhere else in the surrounding areas that 'A" might have ordered from somewhere else - for a better price? Why go to a different county or state? Called the funeral home and asked for them to place markers on each grave - they will do that free of charge - we didn't know that. Why didn't "A" do that????? They are on a medal stand with their names. At least Dad and Daleen can have SOMETHING there... Funeral home has not heard of any pending order either. Company said that the stone that was to be ordered would still take 3 months to ship and then time to etch and engrave. I don't see anything happening by June - NOT SPRING FOR SURE... House is all done tho. Roof, sidding, plumbing, carpet, new piano AND organ, new sterio for house and her car and truck, new tires and rims for car and trucks, tricked out truck w/chrome rims and grill with flames and ect.., computer in house, bucket truck, paid off notes on quad's and mini bikes......ect..ect..ect... No stones.
OK - so maybe all the actions from everyone is all based on selfishness and greed? I just don't get it WS... I did not feel the conversation cleared anything - really. I just can't see NOTHING unusual not going on and nobody seeing it??? Am I really loosing it and some stranger REALLY did have something to do with their demise? LE did not appear to be very interested in my communicating to XBF. I just seem to feel that it's no big deal to "A", XBF or LE anymore.. Took 2 days for LE to call us back after leaving a VM with the info of XBF calling and us speaking. Makes me feel like it's on the last page of everyone's books of 'to-do's...
Frustrated these past few days. Might be reasons for me not posting. I really wanted to be careful on what I posted too. Anger never helps when your posting.
I hope XBF welcomes the Foundation and the efforts to help find the killer/s. He said that he will help support the Iron Man in June. I'll see him face/face then.