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Girlfriend, you are absolutely right! Been there, done that in 2 relationships. Yep, it took 2x for me to learn and learn I did! They really mean it at that moment with all the apologies..:sick:..the odds of them cleaning up and staying clean are slim to none (of course also depending on how deep they are in)....UNLESS they want sobriety for themselves and never, ever forget that it will be a lifelong battle. "You can't ever get comfortable with the devil" is what ex b-friend used to say. He stayed sober for 5 of our 7 yrs, the last 2 off and on. Once I finally realized that "I" couldn't fix him, I left. Unfortunately, he a had a wealthy gr-mother who believed every word he said and thought I and some of his friends had an ulterior motive :waitasec: for telling her what he was doing..Long story short..he moved back to Detroit where g-mother was and within less than 2 yrs was found OD'd alone in his car in a BAD area of Detroit..a needle still in his arm..Turns out she was PAYING his drug dealers because he said that would hurt him..well no duh! Hurt woulda been better than dead..:furious:
Now that I have gone all OT :blushing:, Hank Sr obviously has not done right by his family and has his demons, but drugs have not fried this mans brain imo, as he appeared to me to be very lucid (not well spoken no..but I don't care about that) and thinking the whole time he was in there. Unlike RC, this man imo has a conscience though...he KNOWS he F'd up and that probably was a contributing factor in where his children are today. Yep this is a man conflicted, with the weight of the world on his shoulders and I feel bad for him..jmo though..
SailorMoon, I'm sure that's not a popular opinion and that's ok too! We all draw from different experiences in our life..