BritsKate
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Just for those curious:
In real abusive relationships they start out as much a fairytale. The abuser often appears as everything the victim has always wanted. The abuser is affable, charming, and adores the victim. They come on very strong, very fast - their life was worthless, empty before meeting the victim. Until they have the victim in a situation where it is much more difficult to leave (married, pregnant, co-habitating, lack of resources, isolating the victim, financially dependent, etc.) they tend to keep up with an indulgent nurturing of the relationship.
I've said it before but it bears repeating...if the nature of domestic violence began as Jodi has described it no one would ever live in an abusive relationship again. The humiliation, confusion, feelings of worthlessness, self-degradation, etc. she is testifying to happen after months and years of being subjected to constant psychological abuse. JMO
In real abusive relationships they start out as much a fairytale. The abuser often appears as everything the victim has always wanted. The abuser is affable, charming, and adores the victim. They come on very strong, very fast - their life was worthless, empty before meeting the victim. Until they have the victim in a situation where it is much more difficult to leave (married, pregnant, co-habitating, lack of resources, isolating the victim, financially dependent, etc.) they tend to keep up with an indulgent nurturing of the relationship.
I've said it before but it bears repeating...if the nature of domestic violence began as Jodi has described it no one would ever live in an abusive relationship again. The humiliation, confusion, feelings of worthlessness, self-degradation, etc. she is testifying to happen after months and years of being subjected to constant psychological abuse. JMO