Thought I'd take this lunch break to say, i'm no expert in DV but I have done a lot of research on narcissism. My husband's sister is a narcissist (not diagnosed, but after a lot of research I discovered she fits it to a tee). She is one of the worst people I've ever come across and yet has a strong support group much like JA does.
That being said, I found a very relevant article on how to determine if a woman is a narcissist or not and figured we could all agree that JA is DEFINITELY one of them.
How to Identify a Female Narcissist
Physical Appearance
She dresses provocatively, flaunting sexually suggestive body parts. Hmm that sounds familiar...
She focuses attention on makeup and hair, even for the most mundane tasks or events. "I know I'm being arrested for murder and all, but can I put my face on first?
She is overly confident about her looks. Research shows that narcissists are no more attractive than other people, but they believe they are much better looking than other women. I feel this is a given.
She is more likely to have plastic surgery, most commonly breast augmentation. DING DING DING
She enjoys being photographed, and often asks others to snap her picture. But JA claimed she hated that!
She enthusiastically shares the best pics of herself on Facebook or other social media sites. She will sometimes invest in a professional photographer for a portrait that she uses on Facebook or for online dating. See her myspace as evidence
She insists on being the center of attention, and is often the most charming person in the room. Narcissists are very outgoing and excel at marketing themselves. Oh but JA hates the limelight. SARCASM
She is prone to envy, though she presents as supremely confident. She seeks opportunities to undermine others, and enjoys sharing confidences about how the two of you are better than others. She wasn't jealous of going to Cancun at all...
She lacks empathy, and even common courtesy at times. She puts others down, including you. She does not hesitate to exploit others. Hmmm...
She believes that she is intellectually superior to her peers. Even for a high school dropout
She blames others for problems. Narcissists dont believe that they make mistakes, and lack the ability to process shame. HALLELUJAH
She displays a haughty attitude when she lets her guard down or is confronted. She will act impatient, arrogant and condescending. She will often excuse her own shortcomings by claiming that others are pressuring her or expecting too much of her. JM is too mean for me to give good answers!
She is dishonest and often lies to get what she wants. She will never admit this. I"m really starting to wonder if they wrote this article about her...
She is psycho: She engages in risky behaviors, has an addictive personality, and is prone to aggressive behavior when rejected. (Note: This is most common with Histrionic Personality Disorder.) The wonder is gone. They DEFINITELY wrote this about her.
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