I think we can sensitively discuss her actions. I did not say she was 'wrong' for killing herself at home. I said I wished she hadn't hung herself in the apartment that she shared with her 13 yr old. I think it is a valid criticism.
I know she was depressed and irrational. And suicide seemed like it was the only option. But that doesn't mean that no one can discuss/criticize/ponder her decisions and the way she followed through.
I had two friends from high school that killed themselves in their teens. One friend went to the woods, where she had a lot of nice memories, took an overdose, and died. She left a long letter for her family to find when they returned home from work. It was very very traumatic for her family. But over the years they enjoyed walking the trail near her final place, and would sit and picnic and reminisce about her and cry.
My other friend hung herself in her childhood bedroom at her parents home. Where they had lived for 30 years. She had her own apartment but went to her parents home to die, , and her 14 yr old little brother found her when he came home from school. She probably knew he would because she knew the daily schedule.
I don't think it is wrong for me to compare the two ways that my 2 classmates carried out their suicides. BOTH suicides were devastating for the families to deal with. But the aftermath was different for both families.
My friend that hung herself in the family home absolutely spoiled their ability to stay living in that home. And it really messed with her little brothers head. I don't think it is wrong for me to be critical of her final choices. If she felt she really needed to end it all, that is her choice. But I wish she had done it in a way that wouldn't have been so traumatic and devastating for her little brother. He saw her car, was excited to see her, and rushed inside, only to see her gruesome situation, feet away from his bedroom door. It haunts him.