Back in early March a friend of mine in his 50’s went to lie down for a quick nap and never woke up. We’re still waiting for tox results.
Well I’m going to share my opinion about JH and my diubts about abuse.
We all understand how people learn to push others buttons to get their way or to manipulate. I think that’s a factor here. I’m going to be very clear if I can.
1. Jo has clearly stated at least twice that JH never displayed any anger or abuse whatsoever from the time they met to the time their relationship ended. I think this is important because while obviously troubled and Jo freely admits she “was in a bad place throughout their relationship on and off” he never had a temper or touched her in a violent mean manner. She seems laid back.
2. EG was an entirely different woman. I believe she was violent to begin with and manipulative in a very negative way.
At one point her sister reported that she took her vehicle and exhibited a temper when living with her. Her ex in the CINC statement clearly stated she lashed out at him even when he was holding their child. The document goes in to state she had a temper and abused 3 different recreational but illegal drugs.
3. In my opinion EG follow no rules rules or the law. I think she believed laws and rules were not meant for EG.
A. She moved the cat to the house even though the LL had explained the no pet rule.
B. She gave JO trouble when planning or taking Lucas for visits. she created a barriervbetween JH and his family especially after abuse allegations.
C. She failed to stop using drugs even though the Judge in the CINC matter said if she did use she would be making a conscious choice NOT to parent. Her ex had filed for modified custody in part to her anger and violence.
D. EG failed to complete court ordered parenting classes in part to learn anger management
E. She had a restricted drivers license yet drive alone at her pleasure.
F. Throughout this case she has lied much more than she hasn’t been truthful.
G. I believe EG was a decieptful extremely manipulative person who had motive and a desire to get her way at all costs. It weighs heavily that she was able to lie about Lucas whereabouts, watched hundreds of people search for him, and then break down and take the PI to his body. I really think being able to accomplish this one thing is the true reflection of the real EG. She found out the hard way that LE generally do not manipulate easily.
I think early in their relationship she learned tears and temper got her what she wanted and when it failed, she pushed until JH couldn’t take anymore and snapped. I don’t believe it happened often but it did happen.
And most if us know usually how to avoid those hit buttons but EG WENT for the juggler when she wanted her way. They very well could have been knee deep in an argument over something when her son got in trouble with the air fresher.
I have no doubt the household was a toxic atmosphere. There had been a decision to call iff the engagement. But I also strongly believe when EG wanted something she stopped at nothing to win or get her way. JH didn’t understand how to deal positively with her.