Did she "wear the pants?" I have wondered about this too. When they met, she was a college student, a sorority girl. He was a guy that worked at the college who had a high school education. That is not a typical situation. Did it make her the one with more "power" in the relationship? She seems to have been unhappy in junior high, high school. Did she choose someone where she felt she was in control?
Then, she puts him through college. She is the wage earner, he is the student. Was she like " Mommy""to him? Providing him with his spending money? Paying the bills? Running the show.
This might have caused him to be "turned off" to her sexually. She became Mommy.
It is obvious that he does not have much of a work ethic...just from what we can see about his "dedication" to his Home Depot job. But he likes his toys...his guitars, his gadgets. I wonder if he liked being her "baby" with little responsibility and lots of toys...and then a REAL Baby came along.
He may have resented being displaced. She may have felt two babies was too much. She may have controlled everything else , but he controlled their sex life. They each had something to gain by "losing" Cooper.
Better that Copper be in heaven...Ross be playing his guitar...and she limit herself to happily interacting with other people's children from time to time. Was the "dream" he mentioned at the funeral....was that actually What they decided was their best scenario for their marriage?
