They call it parenting out of guilt. People do it for a variety of reasons, when they're guilty of lacking in some area for their child (lacking time is a big one). Bella's mom was definitely lacking and trying to make up for it. Chances are, she (Bella) might have been removed from her mother, as a baby too.
Quite honestly, I have seen addicted mothers do what's right and I have seen some only do what they think they're SUPPOSED to do, without really changing or wanting to ever change.
Mothers who drop-out of drug and alcohol classes, miss visits with their children, while they're in foster care, and even one who snuck her new druggie boyfriend into their visits. A mom whose ex broke her infant son's leg and she kept sneaking around with the dude, against CPS orders, until she finally ran out of time and chances and lost her son for good.
Some want it and some just don't.
Most of the ones who don't are the same ones who jump from dude to dude; place to place. They see themselves as victims, always. They're not only addicted to the drug, but the scummy lifestyle that comes with it.
But, for the ones who do want to change, the programs and assistance offered is invaluable and a blessing and they realize that, when it's all over.
But it's not a perfect system. There are things that desperately need to be changed. CPS have a reputation for destroying families and ripping kids from their parents.
And parents seem to do worse, once their children are removed. There needs to be more focus on seeing, assessing, and fixing issues before they become severe and cause for removal.
CPS needs to be seen as something that can HELP a family, instead of HURT it. Maybe if that was the case, people would be more likely to call, before things get dangerously bad.
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