Great point! Manipulative, controlling spouses will do that: control the pennies and keep their naive spouse completely ignorant of facts. There's a huge problem if you have to ask your spouse which card has enough money so you can eat lunch. It's a huge problem for anyone in that situation, even more staggering when you know the amount of money she was bringing in.
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MS may have been "managing", but it wasn't anywhere near successful or even common sense managing. IRS threatening a lien on the home, owing money for the business co-op, committing Medicare fraud - I suppose those could technically be referred to as "managing" finances, an office or a home. No problem paying hotel bills, expensive spa dates, lavish dinners out, social climbing, his gun collection, keeping over $40,000 in cash at the house...