Gardenista
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So I am really having a hard time wrapping my head around the suicide as COD. maybe it's like the first time I heard about a woman who claimed Bill Cosby assaulted her dozens of years ago. My brain just did not want to compute that. I wanted to believe the woman was in it for money or revenge or something. Slowly I was able to let go of the amazing man I and others had loved and accept that he was a sexual predator. Our brains really don't like their reality messed with.
Anyway to get back on topic I have some questions. I have been reading here for years. I have watched this scenario repeatedly when a woman went missing and the husband eventually reported her missing. She just left in the middle of the night or they had a fight and she walked away. Almost 100% of the time people are sitting on their hands waiting for the husband to be arrested. They are waiting for the house to be searched by LE and are upset if the spouse remains in the home without any checking. Often members are suspicious when the husband controls the narrative. Also when the husband isnt immeditely worried when perhaps we think he ought to be. This case, regardless of the final discovery, had all the red flags. So my question is this: why were so few folks suspicious? How was this case different? Why didnt LE ever seem to even question what the husband said or tape off the house for an initial search? Why did he get an immediate pass from almost everyone? I am curious. His complete control of the narrative sent my antenna up immediately. I don't know this woman, but I share her name, I live a life similar to her, and I cant wrap my head around the suicide (and yes I have far too much experience with suicide). Maybe it's the way her best friend spoke about her. Maybe she didn't want to air "dirty laundry", but the husband already did so there was no reason not to confirm that. I don't know. I will come around eventually or maybe someday we will hear that there are questions about her death. I hope not, but it has happened before.
Anyway, I am just rambling. I love that part of Maine. I love where she grew up in Vermont. I hope something good can come out of this. And I would love to hear your thoughts and answers.
Can't speak for others but, after hearing him speak, it was pure gut instinct for me. He seemed very credible.