I agree with you but..gah, you guys are strangers and I'm having a hard time even saying it to this thread..basically, I'm the same age as danielle and most of my friends are ones I've had since 4th grade. When my husband and I started dating we were 14 and 15. We were that couple who people make comments on for being so in love and connected and perfect for each other. When he was in his mid 20s he began acting off and I couldn't figure out what it was. I was at my sickest back then and was hospitalized alot..he was working alot and sleeping in a chair at my bedside and I first felt maybe the stress was finally ruining the incredible connection we had. He was so mean and just off, he was always awake and not knowing the signs, I'd had no idea a specialist he went to wrote him for adderall....and he was taking alot of it so he could be superman and work and live at the hospital with me and teach a few times a month..... He knew I didn't approve of the medication after I'd learned about its dangers in college and a documentary, so he hid it. I discovered the bottle, it was hard. We struggled and I was mortified, I didn't want a soul to know. This wasn't my michael, this isn't what I wanted people to think of him as or see our relationship as. I didn't tell my best friends, I told nobody. I struggled through and kept my feelings hidden...I just didn't want people to think badly of him and I wanted to protect him. I know my friends wouldn't of judged but I just couldn't tell anyone and I'm simplifying it here to illustrate that sometimes people have struggles in their lives that the best friends on the planet don't know. I'm not saying DS was hiding but just felt I should share although even repeating it now, is hard.
My spouse, was my rock, my soul mate and I wanted people to see him for all the amazing things that he was. And despite that short blip, he was everything you could want in your best friend and other half, I was lucky....unfortunately alot of women have the same mentality I displayed with no telling a soul about his issurs, except their spouses are really dangerous or abusive but the women keep silent on that part of him because they want their loved ones to see only the positive attributes but in reality they are hiding an abusive spouse and nobody knows until it's too late. Again, I don't see DS in this type of situation but it's not uncommon for girls to fear the truth their best friends will force them to see if they tell the truth behind a bad relationship
Ew I'm gonna just post this before I delete it lol