golfmom:
I am also adopted. I told this story earlier but maybe you missed it.
So both Maria and I had two perspectives in making the decision on whether to keep our baby or put our baby up for adoption.
i.e. As an adoptee, we knew that we were lucky to have been adopted by loving parents and led a good life because of that adoption. (I am presuming this for Maria, for me it was a fact).
Also, yes, I am sure that like me, Maria thought more and more of her bioloigical mom during her pregnancy. Thoughts of why didn't Mom want me, etc. would have crossed her mind. We both had a pretty good idea of what our baby would be thinking as she/he grew up as we had already lived those thoughts.
It is very hard to make this decision when you have lived both sides of the fence. On one hand, you know that adoption is good, on the other hand, you know what your child will be thinking.
I hope this makes sense. It is hard to explain unless you have gone through it yourself.