Wanted to respond to the BBM part of this first, even though it's out of sequence with the flow-- and this is my one off topic post on this.
I'm also a mom of a multicultural family, and I agree that it's not just the black community who experiences racism (although sometimes I think their activist leaders encourage all blacks to think they are the ONLY ones.) One of our kids is adopted internationally, and I live in a middle class area, in a state that is friendly and very progressive toward international adoption. But ignorance and insensitivity still exists.
Just want to share a snippet of the things I have experienced as a mom to a child who is not the same race as I am-- it's up to the reader to determine if this is racism.
At least 6-8+ times in the past 1-2 years, while out and about in public (usually the grocery store in line to check out, lol!), I have had a stranger make small talk, then ask me, "How much did you pay for her?" "Where did you get her from?" "Does she speak/ understand English?" (She just turned 10 years old, adopted at age 7 1/2, and now completely fluent in English.) "Why didn't you adopt a kid from America?" "What happened to her real mother?" "Does she eat American food?" "Will she go back to **** when she's older?" Honest to God, I even experienced a woman say, " I heard a lot of these kids have health problems, and all kinds of trouble in school." These comments were all made by Caucasians, right in front of my daughter, who understood them perfectly (but was deeply embarrassed.) So yes, I do have some understanding of baseless prejudice and racism based only on skin color and racial features.
Thank goodness she is a resilient child and we have a very open attitude toward discussion about these hurtful comments. I'm not an adoption activist, nor is adoption a "hobby" for our family. But part of my parental job, IMO, is to prepare her for this kind of unexpected racism and insensitivity, and help her develop strategies to address it, and process it. Just as it is for ANY minority, or multicultural family, IMO. But I also understand that the prejudice we have encountered presumes that we are a "wealthy" family, "rescuing" a poor, disadvantaged child (like a stray puppy), and that we are somehow "virtuous" because we adopted her. That is a whole different kind of prejudice and racism. One that assumes she is perpetually in the role of victim and disadvantaged, which is not how we ever hope for her to view herself.
On the first part of your post, I completely agree, and am INSENSED, that the AG of the US has injected his office and the DOJ into this situation DURING THE GJ PROCESS for OW. It is unethical, unprofessional, and beyond outrageous, IMO, and smacks of tremendous undue influence. IMO. And I say this as someone who TWICE voted democrat in the past 2 presidential elections. This just should not be happening in this country, my country, IMO. WTH is going on? Why are thinking people not more outraged about this?? Misguided by soundbites? Poor attention span? Too busy to pay attention to the real issues? Distracted by the minutiae of everyday life? The apathy/ inertia of the thinking community, by reasonable people, on this is astounding, IMO.