JustJax
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I need to make a point about some posts saying "what BL should have known" and others to that effect.
I have been a mother of 3 for almost 32 years and have always considered myself to be the best Mom my kids could ask for. Some even accused me of being overprotective, I didn't allow my oldest son to cross the street without me watching till he was almost 13 and never had other people besides our parents babysitting.
My two youngest grew up with some children of our neighbor's since they were in diapers and we cared for and loved each others children as if they were our own. Her kids even called me Mom #2 and vice versa.
When the kids got in their early teens my middle child went to spend the night with the family after we had moved to the next suburb over. While my child was there, the ex brother inlaw of the Mom kidnapped and molested my child, who was held for 2 days. 2 of the most horrific days of our lives. He was a repeat offender that had just gotten out of jail and was not even permitted to have contact with his own children.
When my child was located and the perp arrested, during trial, I first blamed myself for not knowing that this could have happened, not asking enough questions, and most certainly blamed the Mom for never telling be she had this kind of evil threat in her life. To some extent after all these years I still do. She blamed herself as well and to this day still can't look me in the eye because she knows had I known, I would have never let my children go there without me again.
Moral of my living nightmare from the past....sometimes we cant forsee evil when it lurks.
I have been a mother of 3 for almost 32 years and have always considered myself to be the best Mom my kids could ask for. Some even accused me of being overprotective, I didn't allow my oldest son to cross the street without me watching till he was almost 13 and never had other people besides our parents babysitting.
My two youngest grew up with some children of our neighbor's since they were in diapers and we cared for and loved each others children as if they were our own. Her kids even called me Mom #2 and vice versa.
When the kids got in their early teens my middle child went to spend the night with the family after we had moved to the next suburb over. While my child was there, the ex brother inlaw of the Mom kidnapped and molested my child, who was held for 2 days. 2 of the most horrific days of our lives. He was a repeat offender that had just gotten out of jail and was not even permitted to have contact with his own children.
When my child was located and the perp arrested, during trial, I first blamed myself for not knowing that this could have happened, not asking enough questions, and most certainly blamed the Mom for never telling be she had this kind of evil threat in her life. To some extent after all these years I still do. She blamed herself as well and to this day still can't look me in the eye because she knows had I known, I would have never let my children go there without me again.
Moral of my living nightmare from the past....sometimes we cant forsee evil when it lurks.
If so they so looked the other way and dropped the ball. 
