Big difference in not taking part of the planning and/or not ask to be at the service. Surely he would assume to go..unless asked or told not to attend...then the reporting would be different...I'd think. imo.
I understood this to mean that he had not been asked to take part in the planning... meaning the arranging of the actual funeral, cremation or standard burial, songs to be played, flowers etc... not that he wasn't "allowed" to attend.moo moo moo