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As one of the few (apparently) males on here, can I just stick my head into the lion's den and make a point from the man's perspective?
It takes two to tango, and as a (very) happily married man myself, I have been "targeted" by the odd woman over the years (maybe "odd" reflects their taste??). And I should point out that MOST of these have been married women.
However, the thoughts of the disastrous consequences of getting involved, and what it would mean to my own marriage, completely over-rode the temptations of the moment, no matter how flattering they may have been to one's ego.
The thought of destroying my own marriage doesn't even bear thinking about - BUT - that's because I have a beautiful wife who is also my best friend and soul mate, and a marriage that I value extremely highly.
BUT - and here's the thing - if the BC marriage was already at the stage - for whatever reasons - that they were having problems, then the consequences of his actions may not have been able to over-ride the temptations and ego-stroking that were being offered. Of course, we do not know who made the first play between GBC and TM, and I am in no way defending or blaming either party. As somebody already posted - these things happen - it's human nature.
In my case, the marriage is something to be treasured and there is no way that I would do anything to jeopardize that. But for someone who is in a rocky marriage, then temptation may rule the day....
We just don't know what was going on in the marriage, so we shouldn't really pass judgement. There are at least two sides to the story - or in this case - maybe three sides?
... things happen, yes, it's human nature ... but I prefer to be a better human and use self-control over temptation (even in bad circumstances). Many people are left destroyed when there is infidelity, in particular children. Parents who cheat seem to always forget about the children. Parents' main responsibility is to those children, but they just let their sexual urges control their actions ... married women and married men cheat and these are both selfish and self-centred individuals IMO.