Sweetnspicy
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I can relate to your situation. 5 years ago when I had my daughter I became very sick. I felt helpless, I dodged a heart transplant so I know the feeling of depression and not being able to ever go back and do any of the things I loved so much. I thank GOD for my husband who took on the burden of taking care of our 2 kids. I am better now but still my life is very limited. I just can't understand if RM was on drugs which we have no facts it's just our opinions why why not just get help. The man has a family who loves him, his mom especially, moms love their boys lol will do anything for them!!!
This is so sad.....
It would be sad... I am sorry to hear you have gone thru the same sort of circumstance, unfortunately, we are not alone and this is pretty common. Not everyone handles things the same way. You and I were able to come to "acceptance" of the situation, make adjustments and move on. Not everyone is equipped the same emotionally. Some take things harder, being "a man" could put more pressure. Maybe he kept these feelings from IM and so she was unaware of how bad it was and kept things "business as usual"? This would have feed into his feelings of being unable to keep up. We cant relate because our experience was emotionally different. You had support...but how would you have felt if you hadnt gotten that support? Addict's brains are wired differently according to my brother. They dont process things the same as non addicts...whether or not they are current in their addiction or "in recovery". Something like what we went thru is life altering and life altering things can become "triggers" to relapse. JMOO unless we have been an addict ourselves, how can we really ever understand the "why"? All we can do is treat the "what is".