Well, I think connecting the dots is logical. I mean, my dad and all his 5 siblings smoked heavily. Only two got lung cancer. The rest did not. Suggesting that because two brothers seem to have gained independence and be doing well means problems likely weren’t that grave or that the parenting style is unlikely to have caused serious problems is like saying that because some smokers don’t get lung cancer, smoking isn’t dangerous. Why do some get cancer and others don't? A genetic predisposition? Slight changes in their lifestyles? I don't know. I do know that studies are clear that repressive, controlling parenting styles can cause a lot of mental health issues in children. Why do some grow up and commit crimes or become insane? Why do some, even frome the same families, seem to function well? As with smoking, maybe slight differences in the genetic jackpot, or in their propensity to develop mental health issues. Maybe because some are born with personalities that fare worse when being subjected to extreme psychological control.
But there is really no debate that the risks of major problems increase when kids are subjected to hits kind of parenting. And respectfully, it always surprises me that people think because a person who had been subjected to either extreme control, abuse or brainwashing, becomes an adult, they spontaneously are able to overcome their past and can automatically develop into functioning, independent adults. Research shows that's certainly not the case with people who were subject to such control. They can have major issues with dependence and the ability to function as adults:
Parents who exert too much control over their children could be causing them lifelong psychological damage, according to a study which tracked a group of people born in the 1940s until the present day.
“By contrast, psychological control can limit a child’s independence and leave them less able to regulate their own behaviour.”
Examples of psychologically controlling behaviour identified by the study included invasions of children’s privacy and an unwillingness to let children make their own decisions, and fostering dependence upon one or both parents.
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-s...psychological-damage-says-study-10485172.html
Children of parents who display overcontrolling behaviors (e.g. unnecessarily assisting children in tasks, controlling their behaviors)
may develop perceptions of the self as incompetent, as well as being dependent on parents, having less chances to develop a sense of mastery, feel helpless, and experience the world as out of personal control, which can cause or intensify child anxiety and/or depression (Bögels and Brechman-Toussaint
2006; McLeod et al.
2007a,
b).
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-015-0174-y
(Emphasis by me).
In contrast, harsh control, psychological control, authoritarian and, in part, neglectful parenting were associated with higher levels of internalizing symptoms.
Associations of Parenting Dimensions and Styles with Internalizing Symptoms in Children and Adolescents: A Meta-Analysis. Available from:
https://www.researchgate.net/public...s_in_Children_and_Adolescents_A_Meta-Analysis [accessed Jun 20, 2017].
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Parents who exert psychological control risk damaging their child for life
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Not letting them make their own decisions was psychological control
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Invading a child's privacy and creating dependence also classified control
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Findings highlight how parenting has a long-term impact on wellbeing
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/a...age-children-trauma-bad-losing-loved-one.html