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@RAISINISBACK I am copy/pasting a couple of your statements from last thread here!
What the actual frick did Angie want with all those grandkids to take care of? If I had been her I would have been on a fast plane to Costa Rica as soon as those boys mentioned it.
I think for Angela it was all about control. She didn't have a life outside of her kids. IMO, she built a life around her husband and boys. Her husband was up to no good and then got the boys into that same life. She just assisted and supported it all. I know we've discussed here the relationship between Hannah and Jake and how young Hannah was. Angela knew this too. I have sons and no way I'd allow my over age sons, underage girlfriend to move in. She wanted the baby because I think she wanted a girl, she wanted to control things. For her there was no life outside her kids/grandkids. You had a life you were living other than raising your son so once he was grown, you had other interests and things to focus on. When someone has nothing else, sometimes that is good and positive. Many grandmothers love helping care for grandchild while parents work because the world is a crazy place and it's hard to trust strangers these days to care for your children. I know many grandparents that happily care for grandchildren during the day, but are also just as happy to send them on their way home at night. There is a wide range of normal when it comes to these relationships and we all navigate that when it comes and what we are comfortable with and what we personally can do. Angela Wanger was not normal. Her motive was just control. What she says goes and it seems from outside looking in, her sons just did what she said and anyone that opposed her got hell.
This is really the heart of this case. Most of us here are "normal" and me saying that is including a very wide range of "normal". Plenty of different personalities and views make up a large spectrum of "normal" behaviors. That is what makes the world so unique and generally a great place. We (general we) can't fully grasp they why and how because we just don't think like these people. We want to use our "normal" logic to try to figure out the why and how, but it just isn't going to ever make sense. We are not this controlling, we can't imagine ever trying to forge custody documents, or hiding our spouse up in a room and not letting them speak to their parents, trying to have grandkids call us mom, or any of these others ludicris things Angela did. We probably don't have a family unit that we operate like a cult. We don't vote on family matters like murdering an entire family.
I think this was just a perfect storm unfortunately. I am not defending Jake or George, but growing up in this environment with Angela controlling everything, it does change a person. I am sure the ability to get them to all agree to do this started with how they were raised. Over time as decisions were made to operate as a family unit, I am sure loyalty starts to come in, not going against the group, being guilted over smaller decisions, then this plan comes up and over the course of a few months, they planned it and then when it came to it, they all participated.
I think money issues were a very big thing with Angela Wagner. With the boys and their families living with her and Angie mostly taking care of the kids and sharing bank accounts, this gave Angie financial security. The grandkids calling her mom would make them even closer to her and maybe more likely to be there for her and help her financially in her old age etc...
I will bet you dollars to doughnuts that Angie knew that eventually her son's wives would want their own places and bank accounts. Then what?
Billy was living at FWF and for all we know went back there after AK. We don't know if he was there helping her financially or had a retirement plan for her. We don't know if Angie was even in Fred's will.
So I think one clue to Angie's behavior was financial. Her "Boys" took care of her and she took care of them by babysitting their children, the more the merrier.
What kind of retirement would Angie have on her own? She just sold some animals here and there and even needed her "Boys" to help with that.
I think one piece to Angie's strange and odd personality and lifestyle had to do with financial circumstances. I do believe it was more than just financial but on Bethel Hill Rd she seemed very financially dependent on Fred/Billy (she worked for Fred and Billy got a small amount of disability and food stamps) and then on Peterson Rd she seemed very financially dependent on her farm and her "boys" helping with the farm, and needed their bank accounts and the grandchildren would have very likely gotton some type of State aid, some type of financial assistance.
I just think that Angie sized up her financial situation and knew she needed help from her "boys."
So there could be alot of reasons why Angie is why she is, but one consideration to consider is money money money. And the more valuable she was to taking care of her grand kids made her more valuable to her own sons taking care of her.
Wives get in the way. Wives don't want to live 30 years taking care of their mother in law, living with her, sharing bank accounts with her.
Wives would take care of and be the mothers to her grandkids and have their own bank accounts and their own homes and mortgages and car bills and food and utilities to pay. There would be no money for Angie.
If Angie had this big career with benefits and retirement, or had her own disability and food stamps I have never heard of it.
Am I the only one on here who thinks Angie had a financial motive to keep her boys living with her? To keep taking care of their children? To run off their wives? Even to plan murder?
I also think she was very jealous of Dana. For many reasons. Including Dana and Chris talked about getting back together, Hanna and 2 grandchildren living with her, Dana's independent job, Chris buying her a house, all her large family support, having lots of grandkids and kids living close by, etc........
Angie also evidently had no problem whatsoever in Dana being killed. Angie is a total @#$%&
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