vasportsmom
so many cases...so much heartbreak
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Somewhat off topic.
Don't get upset with me, I am not a monster. But I am truly sick and tired of not using a woman's, or a child's name because they are a victim of a sexual crime. To me, this just reinforces the stigma, that it was somehow the victim's fault, when it obviously is not. The child is a victim of a crime and a survivor, and has nothing, not one damn thing, to be ashamed of. Our society makes it seem shameful to be the victim, when in reality it is the perp who should be feeling the shame.
I will not use her name out of "respect" even though I honestly feel it is just perpetuating a bad policy in our society.
End of rant.
As a SA survivor I agree with you however I think each person is entitled to make that decision for them self. Not everyone is comfortable with sharing that part of their life and that should be respected. We also have to keep in mind that not only is this a young child but she belongs to a religion/culture where even today SA victims are often times shamed and blamed. Until she is old enough to process what (may have) happened to her and what that means to her as a Muslim woman, I think we should err on the side of caution and protect her identity.