I registered because I thought I might be able to add some insight on this area. I have actually read Sandusky's autobiography "Touched: The Jerry Sandusky Story." The book is a wealth of information for sleuths. I thought I would post some excerpts that might contribute to the discusssion.
The most representive passage in Sandusky's book in terms of his relationship with wife is a story he tells about an incident at a pool during a summer vacation:
"We took trips with the kids a lot, and some of them would be to state parks and swimming areas. I always loved to fool around in the water, often to Dottie’s embarrassment because it usually took a lifeguard or park ranger to tell me to straighten up or get out. Once, I was throwing a volleyball around in the water and the lifeguard's whistle blew. “No volleyballs in the water,” he said as I turned to the sound of the whistle. Next, we were tossing around a lighter beach ball until we heard the whistle again. “No beach balls in the water.”
The young lifeguard sounded a bit more perturbed, so I did what he asked and threw the beach ball out of the water. After a while, the pool was fairly empty except for the kids and me, so in an impromptu sorts of way, I began to pick up one child after another and toss them a few feet into a safe spot of the pool. The kids were laughing, splashing, and having a great time – almost as much fun as I was – until we heard that dreaded whistle again.
“No throwing children in the water,” he said that same drill sergeant tone of his. I was starting to get annoyed now, because the kids were just having fun, and we weren’t jumping around in anyone’s path. I thought of letting him know how I felt, but Dottie politely told me that probably wouldn’t be a good idea. After thinking about it, I realized the lifeguard was just doing his job."
End excerpt.
There are many other stories in the book where Sandusky proudly revels in recounting childish behavior and acts of defiance. He comes across as immature and socially underdeveloped. IMO, he sees his wife more as a parental figure than a spouse. I have my doubts whether Sandusky could have a mature relationship with a women, emotionally or sexually. Again, that is just my opinion from reading his book.
