BirdycatNY
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Good post! I personally feel distressed every time I look at Cosby now. I feel he's being a bully to boot.
Of course women don't really want to come forward when they are raped even now, let alone 30 years ago. I know I've told this story somewhere before, but I was drugged and nearly raped once when I was in my 20s. I went to a 'couples' party with a guy I had been dating off and on for a while. I knew him from high school. The apartment we went to was someone I knew from my home town, I even knew his family too! It wasn't a 'couples' party at all I realized, but me and about 6 or more guys. Not that much time had passed when I felt incredibly dizzy after just a couple of sips out of my drink. Thankfully, I made it to the bathroom where my legs gave out and I dropped my glass. I guess I was stupid, because I decided to come out, I guess still not aware of what was really going on... but when I came out some guy I didn't know tried to force me down the hall into the bedroom. I was really lucky because there was another guy in the crowd who evidently didn't like whatever was going on and escorted me out of the apartment. I wish I had reported it, who knows, maybe they could have tested my blood or something, but the thought never crossed my mind. I'm not sure back then they would have done anything about it anyway.
time, you are not alone and sorry that this happened to you. It's the worst feeling I'm sure and and can't ever tell who will do something that sick and depraved. I think being drugging by rapists is more common than reported/statistics and many people do not report it for many reasons speaking from my 1990's college days. It is something that is really difficult for the victim to process/register that it happened and then come to terms with it. I suspect it happens a lot at college or 20-something outing(s) or just places where a rapist who incapacitates his victims can find more victims like drug addicts, but college bars too. Students at my university were really excited to be more independent from their parents and pretty trusting of people, so perps probably took/take advantage of that. Plus, if there is a young man/woman who is a rapist and goes off to college, then they will rape more victims at school. The % of rapists are not terribly high, but they may commit multiple rapes. I bet that the guy who did this to you has done it to other people and thankfully someone else helped you.
If the drugging/raping allegations are true about BC, I don't think he just started raping/drugging women when he got to Hollywood, but he was a rapist who drugged girls/young ladies early on. He just had more opportunity because he had the persona of "such a good guy" and people were literally sending him young women "to mentor." Hollywood may just be like school/college neighborhoods, where serial rapist(s) and pedophiles will gravitate to b/c they are sick and want to carry out their criminal activity.
If BC was being honest in that comedy skit from about the "Spanish fly" bit when he was talking about from 13 yrs old on, he may be admitting the age his depravity began. If that's the case, he probably was socialized to think something like that is okay (when we know it's criminal). Sometimes, the rapist is the "life of the party" which I suspect BC is, if the allegations are true. Guys like that will surround themselves with people who they have "circle of loyalty" so victims are less believable to friends, friends may even be agreeable to same and they choose their victims based on some vulnerability. Hopefully, you do not have to encounter that guy or his friends anymore.
O/T but Hollywood, as an industry should really seek to clean house because employees/actors like BC, if true, are major liabilities. It's likely a small % of actors/execs/musicians, but most people (I hope) do not like criminals, especially sexual predators. My school at least made small attempts at security, and occasional info sessions. And thank you for sharing your story, and glad you are okay.
JMO