LaLaw2000
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My late husband and myself were the type of people who made funny statements to each other. If those words were on paper, everyone would get the wrong impression. He would be labeled as an abuser.
One example is when I'd lost 8 pounds and bought a new outfit to wear to a dinner event where he and a couple of his fellow officers were to receive a commendation. He was waiting for me to finish getting dressed. When I came in, I asked if he liked the new outfit. These were his words: "Yes, I like it. Too bad they didn't have it in your size." LOL!!! He didn't say it in front of anyone but me. I thought it was hilarious.
Now put those words on paper without voice inflections or knowing his personality and he sounds like a jerk.
If he said something funny (not about me) in a group of people and they laughed at him, I'd say something like: "Oh, please don't laugh! It only encourages him." Then there would be even more laughter.
I'm just making a point that this quack of a person reads emails of someone she has never met and suddenly she knows exactly what he meant.
I have had a hard time catching up with this thread! Right now I am just sick at heart because I'll never believe Travis was an abuser. In fact, he was just way too nice to CMJA when she. just. wouldn't. leave. him. alone.!
I cannot wait until Juan gets a whack at this 'expert'!
*Oh, and I want to say that I am 64, one sister is 67, and my oldest sister is 70. All three of us would give CMJA the Death Penalty if given a chance. IMO, it doesn't have anything to do with our ages.
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One example is when I'd lost 8 pounds and bought a new outfit to wear to a dinner event where he and a couple of his fellow officers were to receive a commendation. He was waiting for me to finish getting dressed. When I came in, I asked if he liked the new outfit. These were his words: "Yes, I like it. Too bad they didn't have it in your size." LOL!!! He didn't say it in front of anyone but me. I thought it was hilarious.
Now put those words on paper without voice inflections or knowing his personality and he sounds like a jerk.
If he said something funny (not about me) in a group of people and they laughed at him, I'd say something like: "Oh, please don't laugh! It only encourages him." Then there would be even more laughter.
I'm just making a point that this quack of a person reads emails of someone she has never met and suddenly she knows exactly what he meant.
I have had a hard time catching up with this thread! Right now I am just sick at heart because I'll never believe Travis was an abuser. In fact, he was just way too nice to CMJA when she. just. wouldn't. leave. him. alone.!
I cannot wait until Juan gets a whack at this 'expert'!
*Oh, and I want to say that I am 64, one sister is 67, and my oldest sister is 70. All three of us would give CMJA the Death Penalty if given a chance. IMO, it doesn't have anything to do with our ages.
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